There are a lot of great guys out there in the world – I mean a lot of them. But, sometimes, they don’t get a fair game with women because something about them is “too nice,” “too friendly,” or not a major red flag plastered across his chest that reads “douchebag.” For some strange f*cking reason, some women (most women) when they’re dating in their early 20’s love a**holes. What is it about f*ckboys that we’re so drawn to? Is it because we always want what we can’t have? Is it because we love to chase people around and feel pretty stupid? Is it because we need something to complain to our friends about? Is it because we need something to cry in therapy over? Whatever the reason – we’ve all dated a few too many douchebags in our lives. And, some of us are unfortunately still stuck with Mr. Wrong right now. How do you know when your boyfriend (or guy who won’t label your relationship) is Captain DoucheLord? It’s quite complicatedly simple.
1. He calls you clingy when you want to spend time with him.
Any guy you’re dating should be happy you want to spend time with him and shouldn’t make you feel bad about wanting to see him – especially if you’ve been seeing each other for a while. That’s a huge red flag if he doesn’t want to see you a few times a week – or once even. If he calls you “clingy” for asking what he’s doing this week – bye, bye Bobby, have fun with your hand tonight.
2. He openly flirts with other women in front of you.
No matter who it is, or where it is – even if it’s the waitress at a restaurant or a friend of yours – a guy you’re dating should never openly flirt with other women in front of you. Not only is it disrespectful but it’s absolutely wrong. The person you’re dating should never make you feel socially uncomfortable or, make you feel bad about yourself. Next.
3. He talks a lot but never listens.
Someone who is constantly talking loves to hear himself but, does he ever stop to hear what you have to say? Relationships are always a two-way street and if he doesn’t listen to what you have to say or your take on things – why bother having the conversation at all?
4. He makes misogynistic jokes.
This may not seem like a big deal to most, but I hate when a guy makes sexist or demeaning jokes about women. It drives me f*cking insane. If he’s dating a woman, he should not be disrespecting a woman. Point blank.
5. He insults you in public.
A guy you’re dating should never insult you, but, it’s even worse in front of a group of people or friends. If he goes out of his way with “back-handed compliments” or straight up insults, leave him high and dry. You deserve more.