Your friends tell you, your parents tell you sh*t, even their friends say something to you about it. There comes a time in some relationships where everyone starts telling you that you’re way too good for the person you’re dating. While I’m never one to say that you should believe when people tell you things about your relationship when they’re not involved in it there are some key moments in your life where peoplearedoing you more good than harm. If you’re constantly fighting with yourselfto decide if the person you are with is “good” for you, there may be a bigger picture problem that you’re ignoring completely.
If you’re the one who is constantly going out of your way, giving 100% when they give maybe 45%, the one reaching out, the one making plans, the one who calls/texts first there could be a very, very big reason. You may just be too good for the person you’re currently dating.
1. The people who know you best think you deserve better.
While you may not want to believe everything other people say about your own, personal life the people who know you best are only going to want what’s bestfor you. If they’re telling you that you deserve better, finding reasons for you toleave the person you’re with there could be a very good reason for it. They want you to be happy and also want you to be treated the way in which you deserve. Maybe you need to wake up and smell the coffee of the reality of things, no matter how much you love someone, they may not be the best person for you.
2. The person you’re with is jealous, insecure or always picking fights.
If you’re the type of person who allows your significant other to have freedom and independence, but they don’t reciprocate, it’s a big red flag. Jealousy and insecurity at times can be something to manage and work on in a relationship, but if someone is unwilling to change, you can’t force them. You can’t be allowing someone to have their freedom but be forbidden to do things, say things or wear things that you want at someone else’s expense. Don’t let someone stomp all over you, who you are and what you bring to the table.
3. You’re constantly paying more often than you should.
No one person in a relationship should be picking up the tab all of the time. All relationships should be equal and fair, but sometimes, people don’t hold their fair share of things. You can’t constantly be shelling out money and covering tabs, bills, and other expenses because your partner would rather spend their money on themselves or other things. It should always be equal while it won’t always be in some situations they should at least make the effort.
4. You’re putting in way more effort for just about everything.
You’re the one making plans, you’re the one reaching out. You cook, you clean, you even reach out to their friends to make plans as a group. If someone is not making an effort consistently with you and you’re doing way more than they do they’re becoming complacent with the idea that you will always be around to baby them. Don’t let anyone take advantage of you. Someone out there will make more or equally as much effort to be with you, find them.
5. They don’t remember the little things.
Little things are important to a relationship’s bigger picture. If you’re the one remembering holidays, birthdays and anniversaries and they cannot be bothered to even pick you up a card, it means they don’tcareenough to do so. It’s not as though they can forget when people arereminded of birthdays on Facebook literally every day. There’s no reason someone cannot remember that the little things go a long way.