Being in a relationship means youve found someone you want to spend all your time with. You miss them like crazy when they arent around and youd text them all day long if you could. Sounds like exactly what were all looking for, right? Maybe in theory that sounds great, but in reality, spending too much time with someone can actually cause a lot of problems. Ideally, you should find someone who you genuinely want to spend tons of time with, but notactuallyspend all that time with them. Heres how overdoing it can ruin an otherwise healthy relationship.
1. They become your whole world.
If you do literally everything with your significant other, you probably dont have many experiences or memories that dont include them. Not that its a bad thing to experience life with the person you loveof course it isnt. But at the same time, its okay to do things without them too. There are plenty of people in the world, so why limit yourself to having a close relationship with only one? Basically, your Instagram deserves more than just couple selfies.
2. You start neglecting your friends.
Its only natural to make your boyfriend your top priority, but that doesnt mean you should be letting your friendships fizzle out for him. Your friendships are going to change as you get older because everyone is busy with their careers and following their own path. But no one is too busy to catch up over drinks once a month I dont care what they say. You dont have to be attached at the hip to stay friends, you just have to adjust. Dont let your relationship get in the way of that you might regret it.
3. You get too comfortable.
When you spend all your time together, you start taking each others presence for granted. Its definitely not a bad thing to be comfortable with the person youre dating, but being too comfortable can mean you arent trying anymore. You just assume everything is fine and youre together no matter what. But thats not how healthy relationships work you always have to be putting the effort in to make things better than fine.
4. You run out of things to talk about.
If you go to all the same restaurants, see every movie together and spend all your down time together, what are you going to talk about? Of course, there are always current events and your plans for the future, but sometimes its nice to spend some time apart just to get that feeling of excitement to fill them in on something funny that happened.
5. You never have a chance to miss each other.
Missing someone is actually a pretty good sign that you love them. Not to mention, the reunion after spending some time apart is always a great feeling. Spending every second together means you no longer know what its like when they arent around and that will make any separation that comes up a lot harder to deal with.
6. You start wanting a change.
Every relationship gets to the point where nothing is really new anymore, but that isnt necessarily a bad thing. Its only bad if you get there and you arent comfortable youre just bored. Thats why you shouldnt rush it. Take your time getting to know each other and easing into each others lives. That way you wont suddenly realize youre in too deep to easily make a change.
7. You forget who you are without each other.
Even if youre the closest couple on the face of the earth, youre both still individuals and its important to remember that. Its amazing to have someone who is like your other half that you can always count on. At the same time, if you no longer have an identity outside of your relationship, you could end up resenting each other, which we all know is never a good thing.
8. Its harder to see the problems in your relationship.
Its pretty much impossible to be objective about your own relationship. Thats why you need other people in your life who care about you to talk to about issues you might be having. If you never put any effort into maintaining those relationships, you might find you have no one to listen when you need them.
9. You become one half of a whole.
It might sound cliche, but its important to feel complete on your own before you can be in a healthy relationship. There will always be times where you have to lean on each other, and you probably make each others lives better just because youre together, but that doesnt mean you couldnt survive on your own if you had to. Never think you cant live without someone, because you can.
10. You have a hard time when you are apart.
If you spend all your free time together, how will you feel if he goes away for a weekend without you? You might think that will never happen, but it will. You cant exactly tag along on bachelor party trips to Vegas or work-related trips, can you? If you have your own social life, you might actually look forward to having a weekend away from him once in awhile.