No matter how much you say that you love it; being single for so long gets to be old eventually. Come on, no one wants to die alone or be forever alone. And, when it comes to satisfying your needs, it’s sometimes harder to do when you’re single and not with someone who can always give you what you need. When you go through a dry-spell, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to automatically jump into a relationship you’re not ready for. There are ways you can break the spell without going full-throttle, but, you may find that you fall for someone in the process and that’s a win/win.
1. Problem: You’re struggling meeting new people.
Solution: Open up your “network.”
It is okay to ask friends to hook you up with their friends, or friends of friends. You don’t have to settle for just dating apps or social media. The key to networking is that it’s all about who you know. Getting to know more people and expanding your social circle is important to find new and interesting people. If you’re going through a dry spell, it’s most likely because you’re not into the people you already know
2. Problem: You’re not getting approached often.
Solution: Start putting yourself out there more.
Once you expand your network, you need to put yourself out there more. Introduce yourself to people, and don’t be afraid to go grab a drink with someone or meet for coffee. Don’t be afraid to initiate the conversation or the plans, either. If you see someone you like or find attractive, be the one to buy them a drink. Don’t wait around for other people to come to you – sometimes, you’ll be waiting forever.
3. Problem: You can’t find anyone you like.
Solution: Don’t be so picky about who you date.
Yes, it’s important to have standards when it comes to sleeping with people and dating them, but, you don’t need to nit-pick at every little thing. Sometimes, when you really get to know someone, they can surprise you. Before jumping to conclusions, give everyone a chance at maybe just one or two dates before chalking them up as a total fail.
4. Problem: You always end up with the same kind of asshole.
Solution: Stop classifying a specific “type.”
If you’re constantly ending up with a guy who doesn’t give a f*ck about you and your needs, it could be because you’re going after the same person time and time again. It’s important to branch out and explore uncharted territories and people. If you’re constantly disappointed with the people you’re meeting and dating, step out of your comfort zone.
5. Problem: You’re always disappointed in people.
Solution: Be more open-minded about dating and sex.
A big reason why you are actually suffering from a dry spell is that you don’t allow yourself to go on dates with people that you make judgments with beforehand. Sometimes, we judge people before we even get to know them or, we make decisions from a closed-minded type of environment. Just because someone is not taking you out in a limo to a fancy 5-star restaurant doesn’t mean that they’re not worthy of your company. If you think everything should be a fairy tale, you’ll always be disappointed.
6. Problem: You’ve gotten too comfortable pleasing yourself.
Solution: Get back in the game to remember the “good times.”
When you’re single and having a dry-spell, you get used to becoming your own queen of pleasure. Sure, we all know how to do ourselves right, but, that doesn’t mean we should stay alone forever. When we get too comfortable with ourselves, we sometimes forget how good it feels to be with someone else. Go have a one night stand, call someone you’re FWB with – whatever you want to do – but have some skin-to-skin human contact and remember how incredible it is.
7. Problem: You always end up wanting different things than other people.
Solution: Set the rules from the beginning.
When we use dating apps and social media to find people, things can get confusing between us and people we date. Sometimes, we want to just play the field and keep it casual, but the other person wants something more serious. Other times, it’s the other way around. And, these problems can make us want to stay away from the situation altogether. But, if we set the boundaries and the rules from day one of being with someone, it’ll make all possible relationships/casual flings easier to navigate.