For a lot of guys, approaching a girl and asking her out is more than half the battle. It’s like 99 percent of the battle. Completely understandable, approaching somebody new can be extremely intimidating. Especially, when you’re planning on approaching this person and put yourself in a vulnerable position. Even if it’s just asking someone to go out for a bite to eat or coffee, doesn’t have to be super romantic, it’s never an easy thing. So, for the guys who can approach a woman without being completely creepy, I have to say, props fellas. No one wants to get turned down, denied, embarrassed. None of those are ideal situations for anybody.
So along comes Jake Moreno, 22-year-old college student from Salt Lake Community College in Utah. Jake was faced with the dilemma old as time, how to get a girl to say yes to a date, without crashing or burning or looking like a total creep.
Jake turned to the advice of his philosophy of religion professor, Shannon Atkinson. Shannon (a dude) is someone Jake claims to be a “very funny, very charming”. Jake has got me thinking about this mysteries philosophy teacher but that’s here nor there! Jacob figured having a philosophical wizard on his side would probably increase his chances of landing the date. So he mustered up the courage and got in touch with Professor Atkinson.
Jacob approached me after class wondering if the triangle and Aristotelian Rhetoric could be used to ask a woman on a date and I was intrigued, thus my help
If you’re a little rusty with your philosophy skills, don’t fret. I got you. Essentially, any type of communication can be considered a trilateral relationship. The idea being, each point of the triangle will influence the other two points. All points are influenced by the general idea of the topic being discussed. The different points of the triangle all respectively, give their own helping hand in your communication to be considered successful. Each of the three points corresponds with one of Aristotle’s three appeals which are based on different aspects of persuasion. Ethics (Ethos), emotions (Pathos), and rationality (Lagos.)
So, Jason met with his professor for a few minutes after class and gave him the run down. He explained his situation and how he wanted to ask a new girl out. He had the rational fear of coming off too strongly so he inquired a pro’s help. Nothing wrong with asking for help, folks. You’ll never know how beneficial it can be if you don’t ask! After meeting with Jason, Professor Atkinson was on board and gave all props to Moreno.
Honestly, Jacob was the brains behind the whole thing; my part was only in helping him form the ‘wording’ of the text so he didn’t come off too strong. My only real input into this whole thing was having him really appeal to the pathos part of the triangle and be sensitive and cognizant of the ‘details’ of her life situation, as often in rhetoric of this type that is what is going to put him over the top, so to speak.
When the two met Jason shared a few things he knew about the girl he had his eyes on. Jason and Professor Atkinson went over what they believed to be the best wording and left the rest up to Jason if he would send it or not. I have to say asking for help from his professor probably helped, it seems this guy is no rookie when it comes to asking a girl out.
This is where Jacob brought up how she was moving, he wanted to create a stress reliever, and then the kicker, her dog. I thought including all three would appeal well to her pathos. The logos and ethos sides were pretty straightforward and he had these pretty much settled.
That’s the most complex way to say, “I suggested he should ask to feed her and play with her dog” ever! But hey, if it’s proven to work might as well roll with it. If it ain’t broke don’t fix it as “they” would say. So after the two met this is what they came up with.