Sometimes, we fall in love with people before getting to know them – like, really, really know them. Over time, when you date a person, you learn more about them and sometimes the things you discover can surprise you. While not everyone is Albert Einstein or a genius, some people shock us with the amount of “common knowledge” they just don’t understand. A bunch of women/girlfriend’s/wives took to Reddit to describe the exact moment they knew their partner was as dumb as nails because they couldn’t understand basic life skills and some of them are painfully hilarious.
Basic life skills. He (an ex from long ago) couldn’t comprehend certain daily tasks. He thought any kind of soap could be put in the dish washer, he would leave things in the oven and forget about them for hours, thought you only needed to shower or brush your teeth every few weeks?! I once witnessed him make a milkshake and not put the lid on the blender… shit went everywhere and he was genuinely perplexed at the outcome. If he didn’t feel like working 1 day he’d just quit and apply for another job. The worst part was he truly believed I was an idiot for thinking him wrong or suggesting he change his habits. I felt like a wrangler at the zoo… or a parent to a 25 year old man baby.
Cleaning. Specifically, dude had no idea where dust came from. Thought that if he didn’t go over to that part of the room, it wouldn’t get dusty, and therefore didn’t need to be cleaned.
My dad likes to make bread, and I gave my boyfriend (who I’d been dating for a year at that point) a loaf. We decide to have a slice and he just cuts the entire loaf in half.
He wasn’t sure where to go from there. I suppose a lot of people just buy sliced bread and never make their own!
The ability to understand how a lint roller works. He didn’t know that the sheets peel off the roll, just thought when the top sheet was covered you threw it out and got a new one.
My current partner is pretty good at the whole “life skills” thing, but my ex was a hot mess in that regard.
He didn’t know how to do anything in terms of taking care of himself. I asked him to mind the pasta that was cooking for five minutes while I went to grab something, and when I came back he was just standing there watching it boil over without doing anything. He tried to run the dishwasher, but filled it with just rinse aid instead of detergent because, “they’re basically the same thing, right?”. When he did laundry, he would leave the wet clothes in the washer for 3-4 days and then be surprised when they mildewed literally every time. He never budgeted, just spent whatever he felt like (mostly on expensive sports equipment, etc) and then would call his parents in a panic if he got an overdraft fee before his next payday.
He’d clearly been babied all to hell, and I would’ve had a lot more sympathy except that a) most of these things were pretty easy to just Google if you didn’t know how to do them, and b) whenever I tried to gently correct him on how to do something, he’d fly off the handle and accuse me of being condescending and nagging. So, yeah, by the end of our relationship I’d kinda lost all respect for the guy.