It ended in a heartbreak and a ton of crocodile tears. You burned all the photos you had together, sold everything he bought you and did that cool thing that millennials do where we block our ex on all forms of social media as if we are sending them off to a different world and never allowing them to return. And, we do this all with an incredible breakup playlist playing as our background music because when Taylor Swift’s “We Are Never ever Getting Back Together,” gets played – you know shit just got real.
Time will pass through, and the background music will fade. There will be times where you sit and think about what happened and where things went wrong – and, you find yourself missing them immensely. No matter how much you block out, how much you try and fight it – some people will always stay in your heart. And, before you know it, you get a text message from your ex out of the blue and clearly unannounced. What do you do?
There are times in your life where breaking up just needs to happen. There are certain situations where breakups are inevitable and frankly – the right thing to do. Never go back to a liar, a cheater, a manipulator, a gaslighter – anyone who is toxic and unhealthy to your life.
But, there are other situations in our lives where we’ve ended things with someone prematurely. Maybe you got into a fight and you broke up out of anger when it wasn’t really what you wanted deep down inside. Maybe you were drunk and overreacted about a disagreement. Maybe other people pressured you to walk away. Whatever the case may be, there are some situations where getting back with an ex can actually be a good thing.
1. You can’t stop thinking about him.
If you can’t stop thinking about him, it may be worth another shot. Our thoughts manifest into our lives. Even if we want to stop thinking about them, we can’t because we attract our thoughts and mindset. The law of attraction is real. Maybe there is something you wish you could change or something you feel could be different this time around. Maybe the breakup was done without thinking it through completely and you realize now that you miss them more than ever. If you can’t stop thinking about it, don’t stop working for it.
2. The good outweighs the bad overall.
If you are thinking back on your relationship and all you can recall is constantly fighting and the relationship bringing you down, then you most definitely should not go back. But, if you think it over and the good is a higher power than the bad, maybe it’s worth another shot. It could be possible that you pulled the trigger too soon on the breakup and you’re regretting it now looking at the bigger picture. Maybe you were angry about a particular situation but, there were better times than just that one thing. If you look back and realize you were happier when you two were together, it may be worth trying again.
3. You feel more comfortable when you’re with them.
If you meet up with your ex and it does not feel awkward that is a really good sign. If you still feel comfortable and like you can be yourself around him regardless of how the relationship previously ended, then not much was lost during your time apart. Sometimes people bring out the best versions of ourselves, and, this often times happens in a romantic relationship. If you feel like your partner in the past made you a better person, maybe the time apart was healthy, but it could work out in the long run.
4. You’ve spent a lot of time during the breakup working on yourself.
Many times when we break up with someone, it’s a great time to reevaluate our lives and work on ourselves. Time alone is healthy for anyone overall because it means that we have time to focus all of our energy on ourselves and ourselves only. Maybe in the past, you had a lot of trust issues and anger issues that manifested into your relationship ending. But, now, you’ve worked through your problems and you’re ready to try again. Working on yourself is important to make it work in any healthy relationship.
5. The breakup had a lot to do with timing.
We have all heard that story – it was the right guy but the wrong time. Things do change with time so it is important to recognize that. Maybe you are both more mature now and ready for something serious whereas before, you weren’t. Maybe now you have more time to devote to the relationship. Timing is key and if it’s the right time now, it could work out better in the long run.