It seems that in our 20’s we feel more of a need to chase after men than we do for anything ourselves. I’m not saying it’s wrong, I mean I see why single women do. Single women feel pressured to get it together find a man, and get married before they are 30 so they can have children and still be a cool mom, not one that is lacking to get with the times in her 40’s (no judgment to those of you who do, though). It seems like a lot of pressure and a race against the biological clock we are all trying to beat, but it really does not have to be that way. There is so much more than chasing men. You should be chasing things for you in your 20’s. There is more to life than men and beating a biological clock. I know I sound like a great, wise aunt right now that is trying to guide you in the right direction in life; but seriously if you have to chase something, let it be something for you.
7. The body that you have always wanted to have.
Instead of chasing after a guy, why not run yourself to the best body you’ve always dreamed about? When you have free time, quit laying in bed scrolling through Tinder and get yourself to the gym. But, I know gyms can be pricey and expensive sometimes, so why not order yourself a yoga mat and free weights and workout at home? There are tons of on-demand videos you can use as guidance, or you can go on Pinterest for tips for at-home workouts. Go for a run in your local park and enjoy the breeze and fresh air. Before you know it, your summer body will be better than you ever imagined.
6. Plane tickets to far away places.
The perk of being single is that you can save your money and spoil yourself. Don’t be afraid to travel the world alone, the experiences will really shape who you are, and it is so worth it. Find a place that you’ve always wanted to explore, one that will empower you and culture you. Go by yourself and stay in hostels so you can meet new people and make new friends. Hostels always have people staying there from all over the world, it’s a great experience to branch out and be a completely different version of yourself.
5. A strong drink.
You need more of these in your life ladies! There is no shame in chasing a strong drink, we all need that in life sometimes. They say “a little party never killed nobody,” right (that’s a good song, don’t judge me). You should be chasing this every night on the weekend with your girls, your co-workers, mentors in your network, anyone who brings your life meaning and joy.
4. A great cup of coffee.
And you should be chasing after this every morning. There is no better way to start your day than waking up to a hot cup of coffee, not some guy taking up a majority of the bed, all of the blankets and snoring. Chase after the cup of coffee every morning to help kick-start your day and then go build your empire.
3. Your own place, that you don’t have to share with anyone.
Sure, having a roommate is great and all, and yes it can be fun living with the guy in your life, but there is nothing better than having a place of your own that you know you were able to get all on your own. Before you decide to live with a guy, you should live by yourself once or twice. There is nothing more annoying than coming home and realizing that your guy left his socks downstairs on the couch again or food out on the table. Chase after your own place so you don’t have to deal with that.
2. The career that you always wanted, but was always told you could not have.
At the end of the day, you should be waking up every morning and doing something that you love. A man should never be holding you back from doing this. Don’t focus all of your energy on a relationship or dating, but instead, put your energy into your goals. So, chase your dreams, chase after that job that you have always wanted. There is no reason why you can’t have that and there is nothing holding you back.
1. A happy self.
If anyone is going to make you happy, it is going to be yourself. The key to ever being with a guy and having a successful relationship is loving your first. Chase after making yourself happy every day. Don’t rely on anyone else to fulfill you or satisfy you. At the end of the day, no matter who you end up with, if you can’t make yourself happy, no one else will.