It would be inhumane, illegal, and impossible to impose a curfew on one half of the world’s population, but as a thought exercise: what if all cis men had to be indoors after 9pm? If you’re one of those guys reading this, you might be gravely offended by the very suggestion. You might also think, “Hmm, I’d enjoy the time to catch up on reading.” If you’re a woman, you might just be thinking, “Great idea.”
Civil rights activist Danielle Muscato asked her followers this very question, addressing it specifically to the ladies. She wanted to know what they would do if men had that curfew. how would they live their lives differently? It seems like Muscato had a few guesses, because she asked for the “dudes’ to pay attention to the answers.
Ladies, a question for you:
“What would you do if all men had a 9pm curfew?”
Dudes: Read the replies and pay attention.#metoo #Kavanaugh #Cosby #feminism #maleprivilege #privilege
— Danielle Muscato (@DanielleMuscato) September 25, 2018
Most women say they’d do pretty simple things. Walk around, go to their car, dress however they felt. Normal life stuff that men take for granted. For many women, those things get more complicated by the harassment and fear they feel when alone around men at night.
Run with both earbuds in, AT NIGHT. Not cross the road to the other sidewalk. I wouldn’t worry about keeping my phone in my hand and locking my door the second I got inside the car. Walk in the woods, because it’s beautiful at night. https://t.co/NEQ73e8ltK
— Karma Brown (@KarmaKBrown) September 27, 2018
Imagine how different ALL of my life would have been. So much freedom! All the places I would enjoy on my own, and going for walks. Spontaneity to just go! I love the way the air feels on my skin when it’s warm at night, and I’d love to experience this without a chaperone. https://t.co/qPTuon9zGf
— Christina Eliason (@c_eliason) October 1, 2018
I’d sleep with ground floor windows open on a summer night https://t.co/HrkxYZlHzk
— Jane Burns (@jrburns) September 26, 2018
Sit on the beach at night. https://t.co/MEAMr4R91I
— authentiKAYLI (@KayliVee) October 1, 2018
Oh my god. The mind reels. Go dancing? Take a walk? Open the front door without fear? https://t.co/v66MM38Btf
— Emily L. Hauser (@emilylhauser) September 30, 2018
puppies! ????
— Danielle Muscato (@DanielleMuscato) October 2, 2018
it hurts how many of these responses are just “walk to my car” “go to work” “go out”
It shouldn’t be like this
but all the men responding make it pretty clear why it is
— Danielle Muscato (@DanielleMuscato) October 2, 2018
Amongst all the women getting excited about the idea of walking the dog in shorts were plenty of men taking serious offense to the very idea. Some of them seemed to be taking Muscato’s thought experiment very seriously, considering the logistics of making the world run without men in it. Who would work the graveyard shift, for instance?
you do realize that doing such a thing would force all women to work swing and grave shifts. Businesses don’t close at nine. People need to earn a living.
Nice idea in theory but it falls apart as soon as you look at it. Can we not suggest curfews for half the population?
— rebeccaa ???? (@blueraccoon) September 25, 2018
The answer is that probably a lot of women would if they weren’t worried about coming home late at night.
they know it’s a hypothetical, not a policy proposal.
but, that’s what male privilege is all about. No discussion is complete in their minds unless they get to put their 2 (or 10) cents in—even when the question is explicitly not directed to them ????
— Danielle Muscato (@DanielleMuscato) October 2, 2018
Hypotheticals are good for when you want to think about how you live your ordinary life and how it could change if there was a huge shift. It makes people look at what they are putting up with, even when it’s a bad idea. Like harassment. Let’s put an immediate curfew on that, one that never, ever lifts.