6 Steps For Overcoming Paranoia In Your Relationships

This has probably been said before but, relationships are a lot like roller coasters. One minute you’re thinking about how you want to send the rest of your life with this specific person and then the next you are questioning filing a missing person report because you have not heard from them for five whole minutes. This is paranoia. It’s seriously crazy. It is an emotion that makes you think something is wrong when literally nothing is even going on.

So no, do not file a missing person report if it has only been five minutes since the last responses. Five days? Then you should file the report. Relationship paranoid usually comes from your own individual insecurities. Spending a significant time apart or getting into a dramatic fight can also spark paranoia. Constantly being worried or feeling anxiety over your relationship is only going to cause harm in the end.

1. Communicate your worries with your partner.

As embarrassing as it may seem, it is so important to tell your SO what you are paranoid about in terms of relationships. Are you paranoid about a breakup, a miscommunication occurring, doing something wrong? Whatever it is you have to tell you SO so they are aware of it. Making them aware and expressing your concern will allow you to feel more at ease. It will also allow them to be more aware of their behaviors to make you more comfortable overall.

2. Get out of your own head.

AKA stop over-thinking.

I bet that a good portion of your paranoia comes from yourself. You are your own worst enemy. Seriously. Questioning what your significant other is doing and thinking what if he/she is cheating right now is just going to attract negative thoughts your way. I am a firm believer that you attract what you think. When you think good and positive thoughts that will come your way. But, when you think your significant other is cheating on you or doesn’t really love you, you’re going to attract that negativity in your life. You don’t need that.

3. Love yourself first to remove all insecurities.

Loving yourself is the most important thing before getting into a relationship. With loving yourself comes accepting yourself for who you are and always being a first-rate version of yourself. When you are comfortable in your own skin and love who you are, it is very rare that you will face any sort of insecurities. Insecurities lead to paranoia. Of course, you are paranoid about if your significant other loves you when you can’t even figure out how to love yourself. Loving yourself is how you learn what love is and will teach others how to love you, too.