7. viceywicey says that the proposal will probably be better.
I don’t fantasize about the wedding. I do enjoy fantasizing about how I would ask my hypothetical SO to marry me. Though all of this is paradoxical as I do not want to get married anytime soon. It’s almost masturbatory. I want the feeling of anticipation, the excitement, and the fulfillment of entering into a long-term commitment with someone I hypothetically love without actually doing any of the real work to get there.
Then there’s the writer in me that just enjoys thinking up fantastic situations and writing up the dialogue. In the end, I suppose I’m a closeted romantic.
8. runningblack fears for the future.
I’ve never fantasized about the wedding.
I mean, don’t get me wrong, weddings are fun and all, but I really don’t give a shit about ceremony.
I’m much more interested in the relationship with my wife, and future kids, afterwards. That’s the kind of stuff I look forward too – coming back home from a long day’s work and getting to cuddle up with the wife. Teaching my son to throw a football, and (hopefully) helping him train in track. Having a daughter that I can just love and cherish. The stage of life where my kids think I’m the coolest thing ever, before they realize that I’m not infallible, and that I don’t have all the answers.
The wedding itself just isn’t that important in comparison to that.
9. ihlazo has to practice his vows.
I have, but mostly it’s just the feeling of partnership that I’m thinking of. I think about her and me, and the statement of commitment. I think about how powerful a thing it is to say “I take this person as my own.” It’s a very powerful feeling for me. I don’t think about parties and dresses and tuxes, etc (well, not really). I think about people and writing vows and who I want to share that moment with (both her, and the onlookers).
10. whatIsThisBullCrap actually wants to just have a wife.
Yes, but about getting married to someone, not about the wedding itself
11. Kill_Welly is one step ahead of everyone.
Nah.
About wedding nights, on the other hand…
12. leo_not_a_lion has a pretty solid plan.
Elope. No fancy ceremony or any of that bullshit, just maybe a party after the fact when people’s rage cools down.
Even better? Elope to an island or faraway country. Even if the family found out about it, chances are they won’t make the effort to travel.