6. How Much You Hate His Family
Unless his family is abusive or disrespectful towards you, giving him a hard time about them will put a strain on your relationship. He’s allowed to complain about them— but you, as an outsider, are not. It is natural to get protective of our tribes and feel hurt when somebody badmouths them, even if it seems hypocritical.
7. That You Cheated On A Past Partner
“Once a cheater, always a cheater” is a popular but untrue statement. So is “where there’s smoke, there’s fire” (vaping has rendered that one ambiguous). The point here is, it is hell of difficult not to project your own insecurities on your partner knowing they’ve cheated in the past.
Sexologist Emily Morse says, “Telling him that you’ve cheated on a previous boyfriend will trigger his insecurities” and “Even if he brushes it off, believe me, he won’t ever forget.” Of course, it’s all about whatever you’re comfortable with. If it’s something you absolutely need to get off your chest, go for it. Just be aware of the possible repercussions.
8. A Passing Crush On A Coworker
We are only human after all. Asking any single individual to restrict all their sexual and romantic thoughts to just one person for eternity is unfair and impossible. Of course, the keyword here is “passing.” Unless you’re thinking about acting on the crush, (this includes emotional cheating behaviors such as lengthy text convos, going for drinks you don’t tell your SO about, etc.) bringing a silly crush up will only breed jealousy and insecurity. What could you hope to gain from it, anyhow?
9. Any (CURED!) Past STDs/STIs
I can’t emphasize the word CURED here enough, because if you knowingly expose a sexual partner to an STD or STI you are the absolute definition of trash. That being said, if you caught Chlamydia several years back and confirmed it was completely out of your system, you don’t necessarily have to talk about that since it does not affect your SO in any way.