Many times in life, it so happens that we meet people at the wrong time. Even if two people are destined to be together, if it’s not the right time, things just won’t work out. Think of it this way—how many times have you dated someone that was in a completely different stage of their life (emotionally, mentally) and because of this, you could never see eye-to-eye? Maybe you wanted to move forward—get married, start a family—and your partner was too busy clubbing and bar-hopping every weekend.
Well, I hate to break it to you, but when you aren’t ready for the “right one,” the right one won’t wait around for you. So often, people think that “true love will wait,” but, that’s unrealistic and a bunch of fairy tale garbage. To prove it, I bring you Twitter user Rev Rell, who shared a story of her friend who lost a good girl forever.
My homeboy, who i love to pieces, had a great gf but he kept messing up. Like big time. Finally she called it quits. He told her he was gonna take the time to become a better person, & she agreed they could reconcile later if he really worked on himself.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
That was 2 years ago. & my homeboy really just took that time to play around until he felt ready to be in a r’ship.
Now she’s engaged to get married to another guy this summer& my homeboy is HURT. But, i told him no one is required to stick around while you ‘figure’ stuff out
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
And i realize this kinda thing happened to a few other guys i know, and like my homeboy they were all extremely upset to find the person they thought they had on hold moved on.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
said he felt strung along, but she told him from jump she would be open, but she wasn’t gonna put herself on hold.
What he thought would happen is they’d just drift back together eventually w/no work on his part, while he used the breakup as time to play around.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
Now he’s tryna think of some last-ditch grand romantic gesture. Had to remind him this ain’t the movies. Gotta hold that L.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
Also it’s selfish. You hurt someone. You did nothing to fix the harm. They move on a find a happy healthy love and you wanna swoop in at the 11th hour and interrupt that?
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
Oh, now i remember why i brought a all this up- emotional labor.
He says to me she should’ve helped him unpack the stuff he needed to work on.
He hurt her repeatedly and then expected her to help him work through why.
Go to therapy. Or talk to a faith leader. Or read…
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
But the gag is, I told him back when they broke up that she was gon’ get snatched up if he didn’t get it together. And this man chuckled at the thought. After being on/off for 7 years he assumed she’d always be available to him.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
YALL and then he was sitting here tryna do the math over the phone, like
“Well, if they’re engaged she MUSTVE been talking with him damn near right after we broke up’
Ok? And?! Guys love fucking up & then make the real travesty about how quickly she moved on.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
‘From what I understand you were hitting up girls while IN a relationship, you don’t get to dictate what’s the appropriate amount of time before she gets to move on.’
He was like ‘well i said i was sorry. I apologized. But i think anyone should wait atleast 6 months.’
-_-
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
Tbh is was a PRIVILEGE that she was even open to reconciliation. But he fumbled that, too.
Now he gotta hear about the wedding plans from all of their mutuals and he’s in shambles
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
His LB’s (he’s a kappa) are tryna gas him to drive up to see her. This ain’t A Different World. Her fiancée will probably stomp homie out.
Stop encouraging your trifling friends to harass their ex. Start encouraging them to do better in the first place.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
I started this with I love my friend. But when the men in my life are, on occasion, graced with my advice I don’t do them the disservice of sugarcoating it.
— Rev Rell (@awkward_duck) February 23, 2019
People online were applauding the thread, thanking her for being so real and honest, and sharing their own experiences that this is—indeed—facts.
This thread pic.twitter.com/Lqq0vkJlqr
— No Old White Men 2020 ?? #AllBlackLivesMatter (@HarlemMC) February 23, 2019
No one wants to be a last minute option.. and no one wants to wait around forever.. I love this thread.. ?
— C✨ (@kikiMari3) February 23, 2019
This thread ?????? pic.twitter.com/RH75XYo81y
— SaintYourAunt (@yadada_mean_) February 24, 2019
Wonderful thread!
— Jahrell Carroll (@JahrellC) February 23, 2019
I waited 3 years for a guy to get his shit together and be with me. I finally realized that he was never going to feel the same. He hit me up asking for ass the night before I went on my first date with my now husband, and I’m so glad I blocked him. pic.twitter.com/Dhk5fdoQQ0
— sour_gurl? (@WesGerrr) February 24, 2019
Loved reading this. Been through this time and time again trying to help someone change but ended up taking away from my own peace & hurting myself along the way. Let her go and let her be happy. pic.twitter.com/VaEsdXSXuK
— Whoa-KIM-osabe (@WhoaKimosabe1) February 24, 2019
Real talk ? if you don’t appreciate someone, they’ll simply move on and leave you behind.
— Amy (@amygair_) February 23, 2019
Elite thread. I hope men and women reading this; myself especially take dressing and act right. Don't take the piss with anyone. People actually die of a broken heart, go to hospital EDs and ask
— Sweeney Perry (@sweeneyyyyyyyy) February 24, 2019
Now this is the type of truth coaching that should have saturated Steve Harvey’s trash books. You are doing the world a great service, sir. I salute you my brotha!
— srburris (@srburris) February 24, 2019
This gotta be my favorite relationship thread I have EVER seen on Twitter. Real talk af
— Katherine Pippin (@katherinepippin) February 24, 2019