Recently, the news broke that musicians Ariana Grande and Mac Miller called it quits on their relationship.
Not too long after their breakup hit the media, Mac Miller got into a pretty bad car accident crashing his G-Wagon and was charged with a DUI. A few days later, the media broke some reports that Grande was already moving on, dating SNL comedian Pete Davidson–although the two have not confirmed or denied reports of their relationship.
People on Twitter were getting pretty rude and salty towards Ariana Grande, blaming her for Mac Miller’s fallout. In fact, they were trying to make her feel guilty about leaving Miller–claiming he “wrote an entire album dedicated to her,” so, she should have stayed with him. One Twitter user, Elijah Flint, tried making her feel guilty about walking away from Miller, saying:
Mac Miller totalling his G wagon and getting a DUI after Ariana Grande dumped him for another dude after he poured his heart out on a ten song album to her called the divine feminine is just the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood— Elijah Flint (@FlintElijah) May 21, 2018
After the tweet went viral on social media, Grande decided to issue a statement about the breakup–saying it’s no females “job” to stay with a man who cannot get his sh*t together. In the statement, she said:
How absurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying that someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them, which [by the way] isn’t the case (just “Cinderella” is [about] me). I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety & prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem. Let’s please stop doing that. Of course I didn’t share about how hard or scary it was while it was happening, but it was. I will continue to pray from the bottom of my heart that he figures it all out and that any other woman in this position does as well.
Women on Twitter were forever grateful to Grande for speaking up for herself and millions of other females going through similar struggles. Ladies, it is in no way your job to stand by someone in a toxic relationship if they cannot help themselves or try to change their toxic habits. Clearly, Grande struggled through the relationship with Miller–who has been open with the media and fans about his substance abuse problems. It is outlandish and outrageous to put the blame on the female for someone’s bad decisions and poor habits.
Love how you stood up for yourself. It sucks being in that situation where you are the supporter no matter what they do even if it is toxic to the relationship and their own body. I was in that with someone for years who I supported no matter what. But of course I was always— brooke??♀️ (@brrooklynicole) May 23, 2018
Being blamed and I was the cause somehow. I wasn’t “having fun”. But now that we are apart he loves to tell people how I never supported him and it really sucks to have someone talk about you like that when you can’t even defend yourself. All I did and could do was support— brooke??♀️ (@brrooklynicole) May 23, 2018
Because of my love for him. I realized it was never going to change and we broke up a final time. Come to find out it’s gotten worse and he got a DUI. he was so nice to me, yes. And I know he loved me. But he was toxic to himself and me. And that’s something that doesn’t change— brooke??♀️ (@brrooklynicole) May 23, 2018
I constantly felt like a mother or baby sitter with this person and I was younger than him. It wasn’t fair to me. He is a great person and I hope for the sake of his well being and his new life that he finds happiness and doesn’t continue to blame others who help on his actions— brooke??♀️ (@brrooklynicole) May 23, 2018
i love you so much, im glad you were able to recognise when it was time to leave a toxic relationship. i will always support u and love u— cindy (@onIyforcver) May 23, 2018
i’m so sorry about everything that happened you did the best thing, your taught about you for a moment i love you— roberta❧ (@eIIempompeo) May 23, 2018
"Blaming/shaming a woman for a man's inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem."— ella dawson (@brosandprose) May 23, 2018
am I now... an Ariana stan? https://t.co/imcMiDPYvF
and this is how you use the notes app https://t.co/XkVaiPkGYT— ikran (@ikran) May 23, 2018
GO OOOOFFF!! i’m so proud of u for sticking up for yourself and for putting your foot down about this. i love you soso much— dass (@grandescandid) May 23, 2018
Yes. This. 1000x yes.— Music Choice (@MusicChoice) May 23, 2018
tell em queen— n ɐ d???♀️?? (@spookyqueenari) May 23, 2018
I love a woman who is conscious, feminist, empowered, and cares for the good of her neighbor. Ariana Grande I love you very much ♡— B+ (@Sramorningstar_) May 23, 2018
Elijah inevitably apologized to Grande after the tweet went viral.
My sincerest apology, Ariana pic.twitter.com/l3CavwKCtO— Elijah Flint (@FlintElijah) May 23, 2018
And, Grande thanked him for hearing her out.
thank you for hearing me, i appreciate your response v much. ☁️ sending u love.— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) May 23, 2018
Ariana Grande is a living legend and icon for all women everywhere.