4. Are you really and truly cool with watching your partner have sex with another person?
Sometimes threesomes ruin relationships. How jealous of a person are you? Here’s a really really simple rule to keep in mind:
“If either half of a couple feels they might want to punch the third person in the face before, during, or after a threesome, that couple shouldn’t have a threesome.”
Keep in mind that a threesome can do more harm than good. Do you get pissed if your boyfriend “likes” another girl’s picture on social media? Have you been known to check his text messages or browser history?
If the only way you can enjoy a threesome is to get super liquored up beforehand, don’t do it. If you aren’t rational when it comes to threesomes—in other words, you feel some pent up anger or aggression—don’t do it.
5. Do you have to interact with the third again? If you are the third, will you have to interact with the couple again?
Don’t make your third a friend. Just don’t do it.
If you are a couple in search of a third, consider hiring a professional. He or she will know exactly what to do make the situation feel more comfortable and have the experience to focus on both people in the couple.
If you are the third and decidedly not a professional, make sure strengthening a couple’s relationship is something you’re actually interested in, and if you already know them make sure seeing one or both again is something you’re cool with. Grabbing dinner or drinks with a group of friends, two of whom you’ve swapped body fluids with, may not be the best way to spend your weekends.