Whenever you’re cheated on in a relationship, it can be a traumatizing experience. We put all of our love and trust into the person we choose to date and when they let us down, it’s painful. When we go through these experiences we often times have two choices. We can carry these trust issues with us for the rest of our lives and let it ruin our relationships and self-esteem down the road. Or, we can use it as motivation to do better, find better, and be better overall. Betsy Ayala decided to take the second option, and it’s been nothing but uphill since. This Houston, Texas mother was devastated when she found texts on her husband’s phone with another woman, just after giving birth to their daughter. Not only was her husband cheating, but he and his mistress were mocking Ayala constantly due to her weight.
After giving birth to her daughter in 2013, Ayala weighed 265 pounds. She was in the process of trying to lose the baby weight when she discovered her husband’s messages and affair.
“I started in September and was doing okay until two days after Christmas, when I found out my husband was cheating on me with a co-worker. I had been with him since I was 17 and pretty much devoted my life to our relationship and him. I was devastated. I found out through some messages I read on his Facebook where they were calling me a cow and fat and just trashing me and my whole world fell apart.
Ayala felt like she had lost herself and her life in one single moment. She had no idea what to do from there, but, instead of wallowing, she decided to transform her life. She began to diet and cut out fattening and sugary foods and began working out with her sisters. She said she channeled her frustration and anger over the affair in the gym. After a few years, Ayala lost 103 pounds and is now a wellness coach for others who are trying to lose weight.
Now that she’s transformed her life, she says the affair and divorce was a blessing.
Now I honestly feel that what he did was a blessing because otherwise, I would have been the way I was forever. I prayed all the time for my life to change and my prayers were answered, just maybe not in the way I envisioned, but I got a second shot at a fresh start and I’m grateful for that.
Now, Ayala has over 100,000 followers on Instagram and has found herself in a new relationship with someone who supports her goals and dreams. She also says her entire outlook on life has changed, too.
I’m a completely different person both on the inside and outside because of my outlook on everything. I was always very negative and had a chip on my shoulder because I was unhappy with me. I’m happier, I’m confident and most of all I’m positive.