6. That’s an appointment I wouldn’t be late for.
Scheduled fornication. Every Tuesday and Saturday is happy day. Usually in the evenings after the kids have gone to bed. It might appear boring, but it is surprisingly calming. There are no surprises, but there are also no nagging, resentment or expectations. At least for us.
7. I hope I’m not the only one a little creeped out by this.
I track my wife’s ovulation cycle. The female libido is highest when they ovulate. It lasts for about 3-5 days. In other days I turn up the compassion, love, consideration and empathy which keeps it going. Basically, don’t fuck it up!
8. This definitely sounds like a sexy idea. Not sure how well it would go over from an if a guy tried it.
I don’t wait for him to start. I take control and once I do that, he realizes he’s pretty damn horny too and then we rock out. I think about it like this: when I’m hungry and at work and can’t eat immediately, my stomach grumbles but then I get distracted and forget I’m hungry. Once I come home and open the door and smell the hamburgers that are cooking my brain goes ‘STARVING. MUST FEED!’ Same for sex. He may not be horny but you stick your mouth on some interesting places and all of a sudden brain goes ‘HORNY. MUST FUCK!’
9. Ahhh the gift that keeps on giving.
I am always up for it, he is not. I just have sex when he wants to. He has however showed me the magical world of masturbation and has bought me several wonderful machines who will do the job when he’s unable. It’s pretty neat.
10. Sometimes you just have to call it a day.
We just recently decided to go with divorce. Sucks but is what it is.
11. Luckily, they aren’t married. I’m no Dr. Phil but it isn’t looking good.
Coming from having sex a couple times a week in the past – even the distant past – to having sex once every 5-8 weeks is… well, it’s different.
She mostly seems uninterested and often seems annoyed when I try to initiate, so I basically almost never try to initiate anymore.
Actually, it’s been driven into my mind so firmly that “she doesn’t want it” that even on the rare occasions when she does initiate things, I still get the strong feeling it’s forced on her end – like she’s doing me a favor or something. The fact that the feeling of rejection lingers even when I’m not being rejected takes a lot of the enjoyment away.
Blowjobs are rare, and when they happen, they last maybe a minute or two because she hates giving them, and it’s really not much fun anyway when the reluctance is so obvious.
Even something like wanting to change positions in bed while having sex will often be met with an “ugh, no.” I don’t know if it’s because one requires more physical exertion than another, or what, but that’s what happens.
My semen might as well be hot lead and gets “that’s gross” kind of comments.
So we don’t have sex often, we don’t really talk much about sex (conversations about it seem stressful) and I pretty much have no idea what turns her on or what (if anything) she wants in bed because we are intimate so rarely and talk about it so infrequently. I mean, something will get brought up sometimes, but… If you do something one time every 5-8 weeks, that’s not a lot of “practice,” you know?
At this point, we’re basically like good friends who hang out during the day and give each other chaste kisses occasionally. We’ve been together for over two years.
I am genuinely attracted to her, but I have never felt so unattractive and unwanted in a relationship in my life.
We are not married. We do not live together. I do not support her financially.