If you’re both actively seeking help, you probably know by now that sharing a therapist may not be a very proactive move. Naturally, you look for a therapist who is able to offer completely unbiased assistance, usually someone who has no social connections to the people you may need to discuss. You’re not going to feel as comfortable talking about issues with your significant other with the same person who listens’s to their issues about you. Not feeling comfortable enough to talk about things that may be bothering you will only build up to more anxiety, tension, etc, inevitably being a stressor in your relationship.
When you both feel happy, it can feel like nothing else in the world matters.
I know that when I’m having a good day, and I see my boyfriend smile across the room, I’m instantly filled with an overwhelming thankfulness to have another moment of bliss with the person I love. Naturally, I want to be happy. Equally as naturally, I want my significant other to be happy. When we both get to revel in that feeling together, it’s better than any drug/antidepressant/anything.
But when you’re both stuck in your heads, things can seem a bit bleaker.
It’s hard to work on yourself when the person you spend all your time with has a different pattern of progress. It’s hard to move forward when they’re still a bit of a way back, and vice versa. This is one of those struggles that you need to remember doesn’t last forever, and your lows together can only make your highs that much better.
But no matter what, you have someone who understands you inside and out and will be there for you in your best and worst moments. It’s not going to be easy, but to me, nothing is more worth it than waking up to the person who just gets me.