When it comes to romantic movies, for some reason, everyone loves “The Notebook. The movie, based off a Nicholas Sparks’ novel, centers around two kids who were madly in love as teens and, who reunite in their lives later on. While I didn’t read the book, I’ve seen the movie half a dozen times due to friends’ obsessions with it and, the fact that cable TV loves to replay it over and over again.
I’ll be honest – The Notebook is not the ideal romance movie and there are a lot of flaws to the storyline that basically showcases – Allie is a huge a**hole. Sure, I believe in true love and I believe that two people are meant to be together and if they truly are – they can find a way to make it work. What I don’t believe in is – physical abuse or emotional destruction to get there.
Hear me out –
Noah and Allie are madly in love and Allie’s parents don’t want them together because – well, he’s poor and “uneducated” in their eyes. Allie, of course, wants to rebel against her parents because at 17-years-old, she thinks she knows what love is (maybe she does, but a lot of people at 17 have yet to experience enough in life to know “true love,” at least – that was the case for me personally). Instead of being “that guy” who holds Allie back from the rest of her life, Noah decides to take a step back. While he’s leaving and telling Allie to go to college after she says she won’t go to be with him – she basically slaps him across the face a bunch of times.
Hello.
HELLO.
Is this thing on?
Hitting someone is never okay – even if they say something you don’t like or don’t want to hear. I’m sorry – but that’s not romantic or endearing in any shape or form. Putting your hands on someone else, because you’re feeling emotional pain – N.O.T. O.K.A.Y.
Besides her raging temper and inability to keep her hands to herself – Allie also completely ruins a guy’s life and toys with men’s emotions.
She’s engaged to Lon Hammond, Jr. – who she treated in the war while he was a wounded soldier – and just decides to up and leave him after planning their wedding together. This guy recovered from the war and tracked down Allie just to take her on a date – that’s a lot of trouble to go through for one girl. But, she up and leaves him behind when she sees Noah completed the house he said he would years ago. She then goes and sleeps with Noah – living in this “Noah and Allie” bubble – just to f*ck with Noah’s emotions again and worse.
Ultimately, she leaves Lon Hammond, Jr. and no one even batted a f*cking eye. Why? Because Noah and Allie’s love story is “oh so epic.” That’s a bunch of bullsh*t if you ask me. Love stories shouldn’t include destroying other people and being abusive.
Sure, the two end up together and die together and it’s sad and lovely and adorable – but the things that had to happen to make that happen? Destructive and unhealthy.