People have this idealized version of love imprinted in their brains because of the way society showcases relationships. Often times, individuals base their wants and needs on expectations of people other than themselves.
There’s a set of “standards” that people think are universal when it comes to love and relationships. A person should take these steps by this time, in order for you two to be actually happy. They should want to meet your friends and family as soon as possible. They should open up to you about their past by a specific point.
Society tells you that at a certain age, you need to be engaged. If you’re not, there has to be something fundamentally wrong with you, your relationship or your beliefs. If you don’t get married and start a family right away, you’re missing an integral piece of your being.
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What society won’t tell you is that every relationship is completely different and that no two people will love, feel or live the same way anyone else does. In fact, if you’re basing your relationship, love, feelings or life on society’s standards and notions – you might actually end up with the wrong person.
I’m a firm believer that when you meet the right person for you – nothing else no one else will matter. People may say that your relationship is unconventional, but you won’t give a f*ck because you’ll know it’s real.
People will say that there are issues that lie beneath the surface of your love because you’re not walking the same path as everyone else – but you won’t care because you’ll know the trust you have is genuine.
When you find your person –
You won’t worry about what happens next – a day from now, a month from now, a year from now.
You find yourself immersed within everyday as though it were the greatest day. You two make memories that feel as though it’s your favorite – until you make another tomorrow that tops yesterday.
Everyday feels like an adventure when you’re together. Everyday feels like it won’t ever end.
When you find your person –
The laughs will never be ending. You find someone whose weirdness matches your own – bringing out the best version of yourself.
When you find your person –
You don’t worry about other people. Cheating is never a worry, trust is never an issue. You are honest with each other, from the little things to the big ones, too. There’s no lying with you.
When you find your person –
Society’s timelines won’t matter.
Society won’t matter.
The only thing that will ever matter is you two.