21. Not ending the friendship:
Me and three friends of mine got into a friendship-ending level argument one night after drinking in my one friend’s parents’ basement over summer break in college. Four drunk 19 year-olds shouting, crying, and shoving each other over some bullshit I don’t even remember.
What I do remember is that eventually we came to our senses and all agreed that we loved each other too much to let one shouting match end our collective friendships for good. We stood there, hugging and crying, relieved that although we’d almost done something to sever the bonds of our brotherhood forever, we had enough sense to talk each other back down to earth.
20. Becoming a father:
18 years ago. telling my college roommate that I was going to be a dad. He knew something was off about me. I was fairly silent and distant, trying to keep a straight face while all those thoughts run through the head of a kid who hadn’t even finished college and had a baby on the way. He just sat down next to me, said “What’s going on dude?” and it all came out. Hopes, Fears, everything about it. He just listened then reassured me. Then said some quotes from Wayne’s World. That was just what I needed at that moment. And He’s still a great dude, and now a great father himself.
19. Being the caretaker:
My best friend had muscular dystrophy. I’d been both his main bud for over ten years (all of which were past his life expectancy) and had to help him go to the bathroom, set up breathing machines, feed him, etc. All out of necessity and love at the same time.
When it became evident that his end was near, we refused to talk about it. I moved in with his family for a while just to be there with him, but we never discussed in words what was was going to happen…just kept hanging out as we always did.
One night, after about a week of getting up the courage to broach the subject, I asked him if he was afraid of dying. He said not at all, and that he was glad that I would finally be free of the burden of having to take care of him. This broke both of us.
This obviously was waaaay too much for either of us to handle and I laid in bed with him and we cried for what seemed like hours. We went over everything we needed to cover our feelings and our fears (and some logistics concerning certain things he wanted me to keep hidden from his mom).
He passed about a month after that, and after ten years since, I still wish I could go back and and lay down with him and hold him and cry and tell him how much I love him and miss him.
Best bro spoon session I’ll ever have.
18. Bringing him back from the edge:
Had a buddy and his girlfriend borderline OD on some laced drugs they got at a concert. Took her to the ER, took him home (no insurance), took care of him by hydrating him, feeding him, helping him to sleep, etc. We had some really meaningful conversations and became a thousand times closer as a result. Afterward he wrote a song about it and he would constantly refer to it as the time that I saved his life.
17. Getting a little work done:
So my best friend went to school to become a Physiotherapist, and he needed a male to train certain therapies with… Being a good friend I offered my help. So to push it a little further we lit up some candles and dimmed the lights… Had some music playing… And then my mother came into the room. We just started laughing for straight 5 minutes ????????
16. Watching the sunrise:
One of my best friends came to visit me while I was living in Colorado. We woke up super early in the middle of January to go see the sunrise over the mountains and do a little photography.
Well its freezing balls out, and we just spent like an hour outside trying to get the perfect shot, at a certain point I couldn’t feel my hands anymore so we decide to go back to the car and warm up.
When we get into the car the sun is just at this amazing angle, barely shining over the mountain. He made a joke about how romantic this was, and so I doubled down and grabbed his hand. At a certain point we just kind of forgot we were doing that, and just watched the sun come over the mountain. The birds were chirping and this little baby deer was having a hard time climbing up the side of a hill, we were kind of in awe and so we spent the morning holding hands and watching the sunrise.
We’ve both been in and out of relationships since then, but it’s still the most romantic moment I’ve ever been a part of.
15. Telling the truth:
Told a mate i would not be his best man. I didn’t think the wedding was a good idea.
Turns out i wasn’t wrong.
They didn’t get married.
He went on to find the love of his life.
She went on to suck dick for cash.
14. Saving lives:
My best friend took 23 shots one night, and he was in a bad way. While driving him home, I made him hold my hand the whole way to make sure he stayed with me. We’ve had many intimate moments but this is the one I always felt had a big impact on me.
Also it was my 21st birthday but I didn’t drink much.
Another time, I was getting high with some friends, and one of them was on a medication for bipolar/anxiety. It reacted poorly (to put it lightly) with the weed and he ended up having a full blown screaming manic episode, through which I held him tightly and allowed him to cry for about an hour.
13. Spooning for warmth:
Went camping at the bottom of a river basin in central PA. In January. Was so cold trying to sleep in the tent that my breath was crystallizing on my beard and mustache. Had to spoon just to stay warm. Camp thermometer was reading -1* F.
12. Tripping balls:
Took a considerable amount of mushrooms with a tripping buddy. Had an amazing adventure through the woods that ended at night on a hill over looking a field and a stream. Had a amazing heartfelt giggly conversation and felt incredibly connected with nature and my friend. I love that guy.
11. Peeing together:
One time this guy used the urinal next to me when others were available. Neither of us moved or said anything.