10 Things I’d Rather Be Told Than “You’re Hot”

Being told that Iím beautiful or hot by the person Iím dating is nice and it always makes me feels good, but thereís so much more to me than my physical appearance. There are other compliments that hold so much more value and that I’d rather hear.

  1. Iím strong.†I want my other half to assess me as a person and come to the conclusion that I have strength of character. After all, what does appearance really matter in a long-term romantic prospect? Sure, you have to find them physically attractive and have sexual chemistry, but looks fade. Plus, you fall in love with a person, not their appearance.
  2. Iím motivated and driven.†I want my significant other to admire my aspirations and determination in life. ďYou look greatĒ is dated and such a throwaway compliment. Like, what am I going to do that? If they tell me about how much they love that my eyes light up when Iím talking about my passions and everything that I want to achieve in life, then theyíre a keeper.
  3. I make their life easier.†Instead of commenting on my appearance, Iíd prefer that my other half tells me about how much of an asset I am to their life. I want them to tell me that Iím a dream to be with and I make their life so much more simple yet exciting. Thereís a lot to be said for partners that big up your potential as a life partner rather than just sticking with surface-level chat.
  4. Theyíre happy I exist.†I want to be told that my presence in this world is worthwhile because it brings light to the life of the person Iím with. ďYouíre hotĒ is such a copout compared to a deep and meaningful comment like this. After all, I can still make someone’s life better when I’m old and gray, long after my “hotness” fades.
  5. They donít know what theyíd do without me.†As well as bringing sunshine to even their darkest days, I want my partner to tell me that they donít want me to go anywhere and they hope that theyíll never lose me. I want them to make it obvious that they want me in their life no matter what. They can keep their physical compliments because Iíve heard all of them before, but something that involves their feelings can be brand new and exciting information.
  6. Theyíre proud of me.†Similarly, itís not very often in life that people turn to you and tell you that they’re proud of who you are and what you’ve achieved, so itís up to my other half to make up the numbers. Letís save the small talk for strangers on the street or at the grocery storeóI want my S.O. to open up and pour their heart out to me for me so that I feel truly appreciated.
  7. Theyíve got my back.†Itís also rare in life that you feel like someoneís 100% there for you no matter what, especially if you donít get on with your family or you have a limited number of close friends. This is†everything to hear and even better to experience. All they have to do is prove it.
  8. Iím not like the rest.†Iím willing to bet money on the fact that the person Iím dating has told all the other people theyíve dated in the past that theyíre good-looking. Telling me something more worthwhile means so much more to me because it implies that Iím not like the rest. Iím special and I deserve the best.
  9. Iím wife material.†If things are progressing well and weíre in love, then being told that Iíd make a good future wifey is perhaps one of the biggest compliments I could ever receive. After all, I want them to confirm everything that I’m thinking with regards to our future together and where we see the relationship heading. This trumps any possible compliment about my appearance.
  10. I make them a better person.†This is perhaps the best thing that my partner could say to me. I mean, who doesnít want to hear that theyíve had a positive effect on someoneís life and helped them to become an improved version of themselves? Itís extremely flattering. Iíd much rather hear powerful, meaningful compliments like this any day instead of the same old unoriginal comments about my appearance.