23. On being hard to get and why you should not:
Guys don’t like “the chase”. That doesn’t mean you need to be easy, but girls who play hard to get and will blow a guy off and ignore him and shit because “guys love the challenge”, all you’re doing is probably pissing him off and making him less interested.
22. On the pressure of expectations:
>We’re scared to break down. Sometimes when it feels like the whole world is on your shoulders it’s scarier to think what would happen if you asked for help and no one knew what to do rather than asking for help at all.
I miss being a kid.
21. On thinking you always look good:
When you ask “does this outfit look nice” and we say yes to all 13 of them, it’s not that we’re lying. It’s usually that we dont care what you wear.
Edit: other people are better at conveying messages better so to specify, by “dont care” I mean “I have no idea about fashion” and “you look great no matter what”.
20. On head rubs:
Shared a shower with my girlfriend, she washed my hair. Best feeling ever.
19. On cleaning the toilet:
True secret, when there is a poop stain in the toilet we will aim our piss at it to “pressure wash” it off. And yes if we get it that is considered cleaning the toliet to us
18. On alone time:
We take extra long to poop so we can sit on Reddit without being bothered.
17. On realizing you gotta change:
When we tell you we’re trying to lose weight, we aren’t asking you to compliment our bodies.
We’re bringing it up because our uncles have quadruple bypasses and the doctor told us we have high blood pressure.
16. On how much men love parallel play:
Might be too late, but guys really enjoy side by side time.
A lot of people have already brought this up, so I’m really just putting a name on it. It took awhile for my wife to figure it out, but side by side time is when you are engaged in an activity with someone else, but not necessarily talking to them. You bond through the shared experience of the activity, not by talking to each other.
This is why so many guys reminisce about shared experiences and tell stories about things they did together. I also happen to think that side by side time is why guys like games so much. I game online with my good friends frequently, and we rarely get past “how are you” in terms of personal chat, but we all love it. Same goes for watching sports, playing boardgames, other hobbies and stuff.
So, if you really want to impress your husband/boyfriend, intentionally have side by side time with him. Pick an activity or hobby that he enjoys and just do it with him. Don’t ask him if he’s enjoying himself, or what he’s thinking, if you have to, literally just sit next to him on the couch and watch the game with him. If he’s comfortable with it, quietly watch him build his computer, or ask him how it works. Keep the conversation about the activity. Avoid asking him how he’s doing unless he brings it up. Literally just be there with him. Sit and be there while he cleans his gun, or just read a book in the same room he’s reading in.
total side note: especially for women who are married to an introvert: If you really want to have a conversation, ask your husband/boyfriend about something they’re interested in or enjoy. Point being, guys, and introverts in general, find it 10x easier to talk about something rather than themselves. Ask a guy how his day is: “Fine.” Ask a guy to explain something about his favorite hobby: You will be there for hours.)
This is a generalization, but I think there’s some truth in it, I think women tend to bond through verbal communication, and they get worried/nervous to just be there with their partner, side by side, because they aren’t actually doing anything. But guys see that as bonding and caring.
15. On what men really mean:
“I’m fine” doesn’t necessarily mean i’m fine right now but that I will be and if you keep bring it up it’s going to make it worse.
14. On zoning out:
Sometimes we really are just thinking about nothing important.
Just staring off into space imagining what we’d do if ninjas suddenly attacked this room.
13. On liking peace and quiet:
We can come home from a long day at work and be perfectly happy sitting quietly not speaking a word at home watching TV or eating dinner with you. We’re not mad or upset at you, that is just the way we are.
12. On things sometimes not being worth talking about:
That in a typical day, nothing happens where we feel the need to share details with anyone.