My trick is to wash my honey’s backdoor myself. Do it in a way that’s sensual. He gets why, and I get peace of mind so that I can feel free to go to town. Both of us end up very happy!
I start with a flat tongue moving up and down. Then slowly make my tongue more pointed and move in a circle. I also like to penetrate them with my pointed tongue. No complaints to date.
Best thing to do is smear some decent tasting mouthwash on a rag and keep it nearby. tricks? constant spit helps. also don’t jam a finger inside but apply steady pressure to the butthole every now and then. doesn’t hurt to suck on it either. sometimes you can make a toe pop that way though.
1) get that tongue in there, for sure. 2) I like to call it the trombone technique, but make sure while rimming to use your hand to continually jack them