Divorce Lawyers Reveal The Worst Ways A Person Has Screwed Over Their Ex


Lawyer here, although I try to stay as far away from family law as possible. This story is from about ten years ago when I was working for the prosecutor’s office. For those that don’t know, the prosecutor is enabled by federal law to enforce child support orders.

One day I got a call from a pretty irate guy who said he got a letter from the IRS stating that we intercepted his tax return. It was common thing, so I told him I’d look into it. He went on about how he wasn’t a dead beat dad and how he took care of his kids and all. I told him I’d look into it and took his information down.

About 20 minutes later I got a call from the ex-wife saying he wasn’t a deadbeat. I asked if he called her and she said he did. I pulled his file and it said he was over $20,000 in arrears for child support and she said she took care of his kids. I told her his tax return got intercepted and that was the first she heard of that. She asked what was going to happen to it, and I said it would be transferred to her. But, she could just come in and fill out an affidavit and we could waive his arrears. She said she’d call me back. When she did, she asked how much the return was, and I told her I didn’t know. She said she’d call back again.

I talked to the guy about a week later, and he faxed me copies of cancelled checks that he provided to the ex-wife on a weekly basis for slightly above the child support ordered amount. That was his problem. For child support, you submit the payments to the clerk of the court, not to the other spouse directly (it prevents this issue). He requested a hearing and got one granted.

I wanted to help this guy, but I couldn’t. I kept advising that he get a lawyer (this was pretty easy), but he didn’t listen. He showed up at the hearing with check duplicates and the wife said she got those checks from him for another child and that’s why she paid him directly (they had another child after they were divorced). Judge ruled against him.

His tax return was around $6,200.


I currently have a client who makes a sizeable salary, north of $200k/yr. His spouse has separated but will not leave the matrimonial home, despite her overtures that she wants to become independent.

She has actively depleted the joint back account of hundreds of thousands of dollars, which she has siphoned into personal bank accounts and she uses to finance her lifestyle of expensive yoga classes, buying luxury purses and shoes, eating at fine dining establishments and spending recklessly to deplete her net family property.

She was literally taking every penny that he deposited from his paycheque on the advice of her lawyer, which she then used to pay for her lawyer. He was literally financing opposing counsel. That has now stopped.

She will not allow him to see the kids when he comes home from work, or even read them bedtime stories.

She refused to allow him to take his sons to see their grandfather in hospital, who passed away shortly thereafter, and she continues to alienate the children from the paternal aunts and grandmother. She has no extensive family that still speaks to her.

Both her and her counsel are bloodthirsty.

Even though they signed a prenup, she wants to take half of the 2.5 million dollar home, wants full custody of the kids, and wants him to pay her $8,000 a month in spousal support.

She could work full time earning as much as $95,000/yr, but she’d rather live life like a real housewife of Toronto.


My uncle represented this guy getting a divorce from his wife of 15 years. Super toxic breakup and they split everything 50/50, even the land that the house they lived in sat upon. Well she decides to build a house right behind the other house, mind you this was a lot of land probably 200 yards separating both home sites, so that the back of the houses faced each other. The house gets built and my uncle gets a call from his client asking about the legality of a situation he had gotten himself into. Apparently his ex wife would spend a lot of time in her backyard, so he saw her all the time. What he did was buy a female dog and name it the same name as his ex-wife. Anytime he would let his dog back in from letting her out he would yell “Susan you bitch! Get in here!” He would also yell if she was peeing on the flowers,”Susan you bitch! Quit pissing on the flowers!” or “Susan you bitch! Quit digging in the dirt!” The ex-wife called the cops on him a couple of times, but there was nothing they could do because the dog was registered under the name of Susan, and it was in fact a bitch so there you go. Edit: Thanks for the gold!