Men tend to think that putting effort into a relationship is just about the fancy dinners and gifts that are bought. They think that showing you care is equivalent to how much you spend on a girl. But, for many women, that’s not the case. While some men think they can put a dollar sign on effort, women are more concerned with how much they put into the relationship through things money just can’t buy. There is more effort that goes into a relationship than just making a dinner reservation every Friday night. Yes, those efforts help, but, they are not most important. Women share what it really means to put effort into a relationship.
Feelings are most important.
“It is about understanding my feelings and going the extra mile to tend to those feelings.” -Amber, 24
Be her shoulder, always.
“I know a lot of friends who are terrified to cry in front to the guy that they are with because they don’t want to seem dramatic or like a lot to handle. Your man should be your shoulder to cry on. He shows that he cares about the relationship and you by being your shoulder to cry on.” -Maddie, 23
Give a lot of r-e-s-p-e-c-t.
“Respect is really all that it takes to show a girl that you care, along with love and affection of course. Respect her opinions, her views, her decisions, her outlook, her body; everything about her.” -Katherine, 24
It’s about having the bottle of wine ready for us to share.
“Putting in the effort is knowing when I had a long day at work and having a bottle of wine ready when I come home.” -Lynn, 23