9 Red Flags To Look For On A First Date That Should Make You Run For The Hills

Complaining about dating is a thing I do … often. I mean, I really do hate to be that person, but once you’ve been on so many failed dates, it’s hard to not complain. However, through my failed dating history, I’ve learned a thing or two. I can usually know within the first date whether the person is worth a second date because I’ve figured out what to look for. I’ve learned that having someone to hang out with on Friday night is no fun if that person kinda sucks. There are some red flags that I’ve ignored in the past and paid for. No fear, reader, I’m here to save you! Here are some things to look out for on your next Tinder date

1. They talk about their ex.

If you learn their ex’s entire life story before your entree arrives, that’s probably a sign to get out quick. This probably means they’re not actually over them. A person who is over their ex wouldn’t bring them up in the first place. Save yourself the time competing with their ex by making the first date the last.

2. …Or dating in general.

We all know dating can be terrible and complaining about dating can be fun to do with your friends (hi, I admitted to doing this), but the last thing I want to do on a date is complain about dating. Complaining, in general, is typically unattractive, but complaining about dating while on a date is especially unappealing. It also makes the person look jaded and negative, which are both not ideal qualities in a partner. 

3. They’re rude to the waitstaff.

Or the girl behind the snacks counter at the movies or literally anyone they interact with. The way someone treats other people says a lot about that person. Are they super nice to you but very short with others? Do they treat other people with kindness and empathy? The way they interact with others is a good indication of how they’ll act when the “honeymoon phase” wears off and they show their true colors. 

4. They talk about how much money they make.

I once went on a date with a dude who made sure to let me know he made over 100K a year. There was no reason for him to share this information other than to maybe impress me? All it did was make me deeply uncomfortable and question his motives. There’s no reason to share your finances before you even share a full meal with someone. Definitely, don’t let this kind of behavior slide.