10 Positive Ways To Help A Friend After Going Through A Miscarriage

6. Remind her it’s no ones fault.

When something bad happens to us, it’s a natural instinct to question the reason behind it. We want to blame someone or something for causing the tragedy. Women often blame themselves when suffering the loss of a child during pregnancy. The truth is a lot of miscarriages aren’t preventable so you need to remind your friend that she is in no way to blame

7. Remember there are things you shouldn’t say.

Avoid starting any sentences with “at least you.” That’s not an empathetic response. If you aren’t familiar with what they are going through, then relay that message by sharing how you can’t possibly imagine what they’re feeling at the moment. Another thing you might want to avoid is using cliches, such as “things happen for a reason.” While the intention is completely sincere and genuine, it might not be the best approach. Another thing that women who have suffered a miscarriage say, they don’t appreciate being told “there’s still time.” It isn’t about the future, it’s about dealing with the pain and loss at the moment.

8. And, there are things you should say, too.

Tell her she is loved and nothing will change that. A lot of women feel a sense of feeling unlovable after they’ve suffered a miscarriage. They can feel broken or as if something is wrong with them. Show them and let them know they are loved unconditionally.

Tell her she isn’t alone. While miscarriages are incredibly common, it is still an incredibly isolating experience. Whether or not you’ve been through a similar situation, you can let her know that other women have been through this too. There might be a sense of comfort when she hears that other women have suffered the same kind of devastating lost and eventually healed from it. But above all, let her know you are there for her and she isn’t going to go through this alone.

9. Take the burden off of them to cook and clean.

A miscarriage is hard for a woman and her partner as well. The two are mourning a tremendous loss. Getting off the couch is a struggle as it is, so making the effort to feed themselves might seem like the last thing on their minds. A lot of couples who have gone through a similar dilemma share that it was nice to have friends and family come by to drop off food or even cook a warm meal for them. The company is an extra bonus.

10. Remember that partner’s need support, too.

While there are cases of women wanting to pursue parenthood on their own, there is often a partner involved. Although the woman carrying the child might have suffered the most physical trauma, a father or partner can also experience grief. They are also feeling a sense of loss. Try to be supportive if there are two partners involved in the matter. Be there for both of them in any way you can. Sometimes, a man or a partner might feel the need to bottle up their emotions in order to be strong for their wife, girlfriend or partner and while it’s admirable, it’s also difficult to bear such weight.