Why It’s Totally Normal To Be Lost As F*ck In Your 20’s

It seems like theres a universal mantra that we should all have our sh*t together by the time we get in our 20s: that we should graduate college and know what we want to do with our lives and our careers; that we should fall in love and have our fairy tale wedding planned out; that we should have our solid group of girlfriends to fall on and have our list of bridesmaids ready and mapped out; that we should have our 5 year plan stapled to our foreheads; that we should know what we want to do with our lives and how were going to do it.

To be honest, it’s all just bullsh*t.

Im 24-years-old, and I have absolutely no idea what Im doing with my life. Sure, I have a plan I have a job, I’m in graduate school, etc. But, for a while, I was freaking out about it. Im still freaking out about it most days but Im slowly starting to realize that not having it all together is okay actually, its normal.

Why do we feel such immense pressure to have our lives all sorted and figured out in a neat and picture perfect timeline? Why do we feel like were never doing enough and were not good enough at this stage in our lives?

Social media perhaps?

People spend more time on social networks and social media than they do doing anything else during the day eating, working, going to the bathroom. Its no wonder that were always pinning ourselves up against other people destined for failure in the self-worth department.

The reality is, people on social media always seem to have their sh*t together, but its never really the case. The true issue lies between the essence that is social media entirely. Were comparing our behind the scenes lives with everyone elses highlight reel they only show what they want us to see, not what their lives actually are.

The problem lies beneath all of the plans and the searching and the trying to figure it all out. Were so busy worrying about getting our lives together that we forget how to live.

Its okay to not know what you want to be when you grow up, or who you want to spend the rest of your life with its okay to not even know what youre doing tomorrow.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint, and the best way to make the most of your time while youre here is by living each moment like its never coming back to you. Instead of worrying about getting everything right, we should be worrying about living every moment to the fullest.

We as a society have taught young adults to plan more for the future. But in retrospect, we never even know what the future will hold. Many times, we are faced with the harsh and cold reality that life is just too damn short. Things happen and time is cut way too short for any of our plans to fall into place in the long run. If were spending the majority of our youth planning for a future that may or may not work out, were just wasting our time.

The real way to have ourselves together is by making a life that were happy living, and I dont mean 10 years down the road, I mean now. If youre living everyday with a smile on your face, surrounded by people you love and going places you enjoy to me, you have it all figured out.

You dont have to rely on other peoples validation of your life to have one worth living. You just have to go out there and actually be a part of one you deem worth living.

This article was originally published by Alexa Tanney on Unwritten.