While you’re pregnant, it’s important to not overexert yourself. Generally, it’s understood that pregnant women shouldn’t be lifting anything particularly heavy.
One pregnant Redditor got into a huge argument with her husband at the airport after he had the audacity to ask her to carry his luggage.
After all of this went down, she turned to the popular subreddit “Am I The A**hole?” (AITA) to find out who was in the wrong. Here’s what she said:
AITA for leaving my husband at the airport after he tried to make me carry his luggage?
The Original Poster (OP) Explained:
“My husband (32) was on a business trip that last for 4 weeks. Once he got back he told me to come to pick him up. I drove to the airport and got inside the get him from there. The second he saw me he let go of his two big bags and started walking. I tried to get him to stop but he told me to get the bags and follow him. Note that I’m 12 weeks pregnant but he tells me that I’m still ‘in good shape,’”
“I told him those bags were too heavy for me to carry but he went on a rant about how exhausted he was from sitting in that plane for 4hrs straight. His arms, neck, legs, and back hurt. I refused to take a step ahead with those bags and told him it was his luggage so he gets to deal with it. His tone got tenser and told me that I was annoying. I told him to get someone to carry his bags for him and he replied, ‘I already have one and it’s you. Come on I’m so tired of standing’ then kept walking and ignoring me. I left his luggage where he left it and walk straight past him. He freaked out and started yelling at me to get back. I walked out and got into my car and drove off because I was literally having none of it. I felt so upset and humiliated.”
“He got home by taxi but was livid at me for leaving him at the airport just because he asked for my help. He also said I embarrassed him and made a scene and overreacted big time. He went upstairs and stayed in the bedroom after the shower. He is still upset with me saying I reacted poorly and in an unsupportive; inappropriate manner. AITA was this an overreaction?”
The Following Are Acceptable Responses:
NTA – Not the A**hole
YTA – You’re the A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
Commenters Overrwhelmingly Responded NTA:
“NTA. A lot of abuse starts when the woman gets pregnant. And seriously, what dude in his right mind just drops his bags on his girl like she’s a valet. It’s time for a divorce,” said
“NTA. What the actual eff? He expects you, his pregnant wife, to carry his bags for him when he’s sat on a plane for 4 hours. 4 hours? What a hard knock life for him. It’s so easy to get a trolley to move the bags yet he wouldn’t even listen to you but just demand you carry his bags like a servant. You’re his pregnant wife, not his pack mule,” said
“NTA. My husband works at the airport and sees a lot of stuff like this. He used to think I was a bit loopy when I kept saying women are treated like slaves. Then one day, his eyes just opened and HE SAW IT. When men pull stuff like what your husband did in front of my husband, my husband will tell them to carry their own bags. And they do! These men are seriously gross. I’ve heard much worse stories than yours, and yours…I’m humiliated on your behalf. Don’t put up with shoddy treatment,” told
“NTA but I have to ask, does he normally treat you this way? This is a pretty glaring red flag. He didn’t even speak to you? He did not ask for help, but demanded you take his things for him? You’re pregnant and he’s expecting you to carry anything heavy? He yelled at you, in a public setting no less, because you wanted to be cautious with your pregnancy and you’re also not a servant to be ordered around? These are not normal or appropriate behaviors. Even if you weren’t pregnant, it isn’t okay to ignore your wife you haven’t seen in a month and expect then demand she carry your luggage,” noted
“Pregnant or not, 4 hr flight or 24 hr flight, you do not need to carry his luggage. Wonder where he got the audacity from. NTA!”
“NTA You need to rethink this marriage in total. No partner treats another partner in this manner. Especially one that is carrying their child”
“NTA. Really, what is wrong with your husband? Has he been this inconsiderate towards you in the past? How long have you been married? Do you want to raise a child with this man? These are very important questions you need to ask yourself if you want to still be in this marriage.”