Sometimes, families can take advantage of us in times of need. While we are always willing and ready to help our families, when it interferes with our professional lives, it’s always okay to say “no” every once in a while. Most of the time, however, family members understand when we’re busy and can’t just do them favors (for free). However, some are just greedy and needy.
Recently, Reddit user u/timberdogbarks posted screenshots her sister-in-law sent her to the subthread “Choosing Beggars.” Her sister-in-law was asking herto ditch some clients the Reddit user already had for tutoring to come to tutor her daughter (the Reddit user’s niece) for free.
The texts start out with the sister-in-law demanding to know why u/timberdogbarks won’t “dump her Wednesday lesson” to tutor her daughter. u/timberdogbarks explained that she already told her that she can tutor her daughter, Cassie, on Tuesdays and Thursdays. She is more than willing to help her daughter, but will not dump clients who she has worked with previously (and lose the money).
She reiterated that she’s even willing to tutor Cassie for free because they’re family, but she can’t just give up clients when she has her schedule set and she needs the money. But, her sister-in-law got aggressive and called her greedy. On top of this, she insisted that u/timberdogbarks come over at 8 A.M. on Saturdays to tutor Cassie—and cook her breakfast, too.
Obviously, u/timberdogbarks was getting pissed off at her sister-in-law’s demands and asked if “she would also like her to mop the floors and clean the litter box,” too. Instead of realizing she was being completely unreasonable and a huge b*tch, her sister-in-law replied with a plethora of threats and extremely racist remarks—calling her a n****.
One Reddit user, RunningTrisarahtop asked the question we were all wondering:
She’s a terrible person. Will your brother side with her?
And, u/timberdogbarks responded by saying:
He’s my husband, his sister has disliked me from the day she met me because I’m black and a foreigner. She’s a racist and when she’s angry it shows. She resents the fact he chose me over his family. His family is very racist and cut ties with him when we got married. His parents haven’t met our children yet because they’re mixed race and they don’t want to anything to do with us. We kept in touch with his sister because she’s his little sister and she lives near us, but she’s always making sly comments and coveted racist remarks towards me.
My husband has told her many times that as much as he loves her he won’t tolerate her treating me like shit just because my skin happens to be dark, but she had never called me anything as bad as what she did today.
My husband was with me while I was texting with her and saw the messages. He called her up straight away and told her she’s dead to him and doesn’t want to hear from her ever again. She cried her eyes out (crocodile tears) and said she’d apologize to me and didn’t really mean what she said but her daughter is failing her classes and it’s my fault because I don’t want tutor her.
She did mean it, she’s only crying because she got caught. We have given her many chances but there’s no cure for racism and stupidity. And I already told her I have no problem with her daughter coming in for tutoring after school with the other kids, I won’t even charge her because I genuinely want to help her get better grades, but I’m not gonna quit tutoring the other (paying) kids just because some are black and she doesn’t want her daughter sitting in the same room as them. Funny because there are black kids in her class in school and she doesn’t put up a fight because she knows she can’t get away with being racist towards kids in a public school and they won’t give her crazy demands the time of day.
The problem comes because her daughter has zumba and other activates after school every day of the week except Wednesdays, so because she wants me to tutor her exclusively, she expects me to get rid of the other kids and spend the hour teaching herdaughter alone. How am I gonna dismiss my Wednesdays class just for her, when her daughter is welcome to come anyway? What am I supposed to tell the kids’ parents, that I can’t work for them anymore because their presence bothers my sister in law? Am I supposed to say no to that money to teach her daughter for free? I don’t mind teaching her for free but she has to compromise and bring her in with everybody else. Or you know, give priority to her grades over zumba, quit zumba and bring her in for tutoring.
Oh and trust me I do need the money, I have bills to pay just like everybody else, but in her head we must be loaded because we go on holidays once a year and we enjoy eating out sometimes and going to the movies.
People online were shocked, floored, and felt insulted for the Reddit user. Others pointed out that they feel awful for Cassie, the daughter, who has to grow up with this kind of mother.