We write a lot about Chrissy Teigen. That’s because she’s a legitimate delight on social media, and she also happens to have what looks like a pretty great marriage and two adorable kids. She’s a fun person and fun to write about. The model and cookbook author and her husband, actor/musician John Legend, look amazing on red carpets. But they also tease each other publicly a lot, which makes them seem super relatable.
But because of Teigen’s outspokenness and tendency to go after trolls on Twitter, some people interviewing Legend apparently ask him how he “deal[s] with” her. What? As though she’s a burden somehow? Or unhinged? Or that she needs to be handled or controlled?
Teigen tweeted Tuesday night, “I feel like a very common question when interviewing john is basically “how do you deal with your wife” and … I don’t love it.”
I feel like a very common question when interviewing john is basically “how do you deal with your wife” and … I don’t love it.
— chrissy teigen (@chrissyteigen) February 27, 2019
Interviewers also ask if she asks for Legend’s “okay” before tweeting things.
It happens a lot. “does she ask you if certain things are okay to say?” …it’s just very weird to me.
— christine teigen (@chrissyteigen) February 27, 2019
no. he doesn’t. I don’t care. and he doesn’t care. end of question.
— christine teigen (@chrissyteigen) February 27, 2019
he usually does the standard “no…she knows what she’s doing…” but it’s not even that. It’s just that I am a different human than him? It is theeeee most common question with him. Please stop.
— christine teigen (@chrissyteigen) February 27, 2019
She clarified that she wasn’t mad at people who’ve asked the question, she just wants it to stop.
I’m not mad at anyone who has asked this. I get that we are very different. It happens a lot though and I’m just not very into it. You don’t ask me how I deal with watching msnbc every night or what I do while he’s silent for a week
— christine teigen (@chrissyteigen) February 27, 2019
People on Twitter responded that they found the question really weird, too (some in fewer words than others).
Fuck those assholes
— Andy Richter (@AndyRichter) February 27, 2019
Ew.
— Charlotte Clymer?️? (@cmclymer) February 27, 2019
What – how does he deal with having a hilarious, adoring, good-hearted partner in life?
People are thick headed, sometimes.
— Joshua Gray (@BumpinFresh) February 27, 2019
Right? Seems like he “deals with it” pretty well. They seem to have a great and loving relationship.
— Tal (@giantcu92) February 27, 2019
Well, it’s insane. “You’re married to a woman who is a smart and funny swimsuit model who loves to cook, and who seems to deeply love you – but, she has opinions on things. How do you deal?”
— Joshua Gray (@BumpinFresh) February 27, 2019
It’s kind of like when successful women are interviewed and they happen to be mothers and they r asked how they find the balance between mothering and career. They never ask men that question and that’s annoying. John loves you, he doesn’t “deal with you.”
— Merritt Kelly (@MerrittKelly1) February 27, 2019
This should always be your look when they ask that. pic.twitter.com/vS7hYL7fWc
— Chad Sewich (@ChadSewich) February 27, 2019
ah yes, the elusive yet systematic oppression of women
— Sarah Clapp (@SarahClapp) February 27, 2019
Such questions reveal more about their views of women than they intend, Christine. For all of our married life, Sherrod has answered: “She doesn’t tell me how to vote and I don’t tell her what to write.” That this has to be explained….
— Connie Schultz (@ConnieSchultz) February 27, 2019
“How do you deal with your wife?”
“Like she’s a person, allowed all the same rights and privileges as any other human being…”
Interviewers need to stop acting like it’s 1920 or earlier. ??♀️— because.I.said.So. (@frackurself) February 27, 2019
Maybe this thread will serve to remind interviewers that, hi, different people are different. And a wife doesn’t have to be “dealt with,” although she’s difficult to endure. Nor should she have to ever ask her husband if her tweets are okay. Dang.
h/t Someecards