Body shaming is never okay in any situation. There’s no good reason to make someone feel bad about their body and the way they look–especially if you’re in a relationship with them.
Twitter user Shelby knows how it feels to be body shamed by someone close to you after her boyfriend turned out to be a complete and total jerk. She decided to ask Twitter for some advice after receiving some harsh text messages from him. She makes a statement that she weighs “120 pounds” and has weighed this for five months, including when she met her boyfriend. However, he decided to body shame her for having “a pooch.”
I am 120 pounds. I have been for about 5 months.
My partner said this to me. Am I overreacting for feeling hurt by this? I’m at a loss and just can’t even comprehend how someone who claims to love me can say this. pic.twitter.com/JpOrtkSZ4h— shelbs (@babyyygucci) March 30, 2018
She also shared that she was always thinner when she was younger and had a hard time putting on weight. After doctors couldn’t explain why she couldn’t keep weight on, Shelby admits she’s finally in a place where she feels good about her body–despite what her boyfriend says.
My journey of my body has been long. In highschool I was 80-90 and my doctors never figured out why I couldn’t keep on weight. At 20, I started gaining. When i did, I never felt happier and more healthy. I worked hard for this body. I am 120 pounds of pure growth. pic.twitter.com/vyLGUuT0fu
— shelbs (@babyyygucci) March 30, 2018
After her tweet went viral online, many Twitter users had some simple advice for Shelby.
girl you are SOOO effing beautiful okay. im so happy you are planning on leaving him because you deserve someone who will love you at any weight and always make you feel beautiful and loved. youll find a guy like that i promise, just gotta get through assholes like him??
— hannah (@_hannahaleene) March 31, 2018
Break up with them now.
It's only going to get worse. Five months is still the honeymoon phase. If it's like this now, a year down the line is gonna be awful.
Get out.
— Ali Barthwell (@wtflanksteak) March 31, 2018
You need to let that person go. You are clearly a healthy weight.
— Alice (@MySubBoxIsFull) March 31, 2018
Dump him
— nurse ashley ??? (@amsnow_fit) March 30, 2018
It’s time to let that man-go pic.twitter.com/pOXzGSaWKs
— shælÿn? (@andreas_shaelyn) March 31, 2018
Dump??them??sis??you’re??cute??and??they’re??idealising??an??unhealthy??you??
— anne➫ (@b_anneedwards) March 30, 2018
LEAVE HIM
— Tayyy? (@tayjking) March 31, 2018
THROW HIM AWAY
— claire (@_peachstorm) April 2, 2018
YA GOTTA THROW THE WHOLE BOYFRIEND AWAY AND GET ONE THAT LOVES YOUR BODY FOR WHAT IT IS
— weekend gay (@shannonnnewton) March 30, 2018
After receiving tons of love and advice from complete strangers online (you gotta love Twitter sometimes), Shelby admitted she knew it was time to end things with her boyfriend. She also thanked everyone for their love and positivity.
I haven’t been able to see him since I posted this. With the help of my therapist today I have a plan to end things and move on. I will be seeing him tomorrow and dropping a hefty 180 pounds. The support I got is amazing. I really thought only my few twitter friends would reply!
— shelbs (@babyyygucci) March 30, 2018
If any man makes you feel insecure about your body ladies–let that MAN GO.