It’s 2017, so basically, everything we do is via app. We’re communicating with our friends via apps, shopping via apps, tracking our weightloss via apps – I’m surprised we’re not going to the bathroom via apps (if we could, I bet we would). So, it’s no surprise that the majority of single people are relying on apps to get them dates. The world of dating apps can be so pressure-filled and scary, it’s almost difficult to manage how to use them navigate the “dating app sphere.” The hardest thing? Coming up with the perfect “first message” to someone you kinda like. But, have no fear, we’re here to help you out.
1. Have them describe themselves via emoji:
Asking them to describe themselves in 3-4 emoji icons can lead to some interesting conversation. Plus, it makes the other party actually think. Some of them can be funny, while others can be downright confusing – which, leads you to having a longer, deeper conversation. Emojis, however, keep it lighthearted and fun.
2. Tell them they have great taste in women/men:
Being confident is something everyone loves and opening with a flirt line like this can definitely draw someone’s attention in. The other party will see that you’re hella confident in yourself, but also playful and fun – which is a great quality to have.
3. Open with a funny GIF:
The fact that most dating apps allow you to use GIF commenting is a huge plus. Open the conversation with a funny GIF from a show you love or your favorite movie, and see what kind of GIF they respond with. You two may go back-to-back for a while sharing GIFs, and you can discuss why you picked those specific ones.
4. Use something from their bio:
If someone writes about loving to travel or loving the outdoors, open with something relating to that. If someone is from a specific place in the world, say something fun and interesting about that place. Always show that you’re interested in what they have to say/learning more about them.
5. Make a joke about dating apps:
Making a joke about being on dating apps shows that you’re not embarrassed or ashamed to be on Tinder or Bumble (or anything else like that). Make a funny joke about swiping a lot, but you’re happy you swiped on this particular person. Being self-aware and having high enough self-esteem to laugh at yourself is super attractive.
6. Use an old-school, cheesy opener:
Using a cheesy pick-up line (an appropriate one, no sexual innuendoes, guys) can be cute and funny all at the same time. You never know, they can come back with an even cheesier line and you can both laugh about it on your 10th date.
7. Be upfront and make the plans:
Show them you’re unafraid and ready to go on an adventure by suggesting a low-key yet fun date idea. “Lets grab tacos on Tuesday,” or “How about a beer to make this Monday better?” Forwardness can sometimes be a good thing, showing someone you’re down to make this happen and not just go back and forth for months on text messages.
8. Two truths and a lie:
Two truths and a lie is a game that everyone plays (usually with drinks). Basically, you say two true things about yourself and one lie about yourself, and the other party has to try to figure out what’s true and what’s the lie. It’s definitely good to start a convo and you may be surprised with what you find out. Plus, everyone loves to play a fun little game.