How To Love Someone Who Suffers From Depression

We’re not broken. We’re not lost.

5. Don’t downplay their issues just because you can’t physically see them:

Someone once told me that having depression is often times harder for individuals than having a physical illness. This is because when people are physically ill, others can see what is going on firsthand. When you suffer from something that is psychological, it’s harder for people to be empathetic and understanding.

If someone broke their arm, you wouldn’t be pushing them to go to the batting cages with you on a date, or telling them to get over it. Instead, you would aid them in their healing process, trying to help them get better. The same goes with someone with depression. Just because you cannot see it, doesn’t mean it’s not there. If they are uncomfortable doing something specific because of it, don’t push them. Be understanding in their healing.

6. Read: 

For someone who doesn’t struggle with a psychological disorder, it can be a foreign language when you are with someone who does. There’s nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about – but it would help if maybe you did a bit of research and reading on what your partner or friend is going through.

There are hundreds – thousands – of resources online and in books. Picking up a few tips and tricks can be helpful when you’re dealing with these kinds of situations.

7. Listen to their needs: 

Just like you would want someone to listen to your needs, it’s important you listen to your partner and friends’ needs when they tell you them. If they need a little more love and affection sometimes, don’t brush them off as a burden or annoyance. People with depression constantly struggle with overstepping – they are always feeling as though their depression burdens those around them.

Give them a little TLC when they need it. And, when they need some space, respect that, too.

8. Never be afraid to ask for help: 

In some situations, depression can get worse in some individuals. If you are ever with someone who struggles with major depression – do not be afraid to pursue outside help. When you ignore warning signs in someone, it can lead to harm and damage for yourself and your partner or friend.

If someone is struggling with major depression and talks about self-harm, suicide or any other alarming things – seek immediate outside counseling. Talk to them firsthand, speak to their parents or call a help hotline to prevent any permanent mistakes or damage.


If you or a loved one suffers from depression and you are seeking outside help:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

Feeling Kind of Blue Hotline: 1-866-728-7983

NDMDA Depression Hotline: 1-800-826-3632

National Youth Crisis Hotline: 1-800-448-4663