Three months into our relationship he was like: “You can’t leave anymore during fights. I’m not going to do that.” He has a very high standard and a strong code of ethics. He was like: “No, I have more respect for myself. I love you, but I’m not going to do that my whole life. Our marriage won’t survive.”
At this point Bell realized she had to change if she wanted to keep her mans. “He said, ‘Let’s just help you. You are not a good fighter.’ And I always thought I was because I won,” Kristen shared with Harry Connick Jr. “He’s like, ‘No, people can’t do that. Our marriage won’t survive.’ And everything he was saying was making so much sense and I was like damn this guy.”
A couple of months ago, Bell shared some insight into how the pair actively choose to maintain a healthy relationship. Mainly, they cut out contempt (no eye-rolling, ever), they take responsibility in actively choosing to love and be happy, they address “the problem under the problem”, and they practice vulnerability with one another.
Basically, marriage takes a lot of work. But so does everything else worth a damn in this life. So next time you find yourself slamming doors or stomping out of the house, take a deep breath and ask yourself— If you walk out the door, are you ok with the possibility of never coming back?