Being in a serious relationship today is a lot harder than it was for our parents when they were young. While every relationship has its own problems and issues to deal with, when you throw social media into the mix – it makes everything much more complicated.
We’ve all seen people flood social media with sappy selfies of them and their partner. We’ve seen dozens of “Man Crush Mondays” and “Women Crush Wednesdays,” we’ve seen long, thought out paragraphs on holidays, birthdays and anniversaries – and, we’ve seen the pictures that should have definitely been kept private.
But, not every couple is like this. There are those who feel the need to share their relationship all over their social media profiles and there are those who don’t. The issues lies within the individuals who question the validity of their relationship and love just because their SO doesn’t overshare their romance on social networks.
If you’re SO doesn’t post photos of you or post about you on social media – most people will claim that there is something “shady” going on and that it’s “suspect.” Immediately, people assume your partner is trying to “hide you,” or create an image to their followers and friends that they’re single so they can leave themselves open to meeting new people.
This is absolute insanity.
Social media should not be a make or break of your relationship. If you’re with someone who doesn’t post photos of you all the time – or at all even – but you two are perfectly happy and in love, why would you sabotage your relationship?
Social media has created the notion within our minds that the only way to show love and affection is by constantly being up each other’s asses – giving each other half-assed compliments and fake gratification. Just because a guy likes all of your selfies on Instagram doesn’t mean he’s the prince charming you’ve been looking for. Just because someone shares hundreds of pictures of their boyfriend/girlfriend, doesn’t mean their relationship is all rainbows and sunshine.
These types of social media networks and interactions shouldn’t determine the validity or worth of a relationship that happens in real life – off screen. While we’ve become so wrapped up in sharing and oversharing, we forget that the only thing that holds actual value is what goes on with you and your SO in real life.
You most likely are involved in your partner’s life enough that you’ve met their friends and family and you spend time with other people – which means, you’re important enough to bring into their life. The people who are important to them know you exist. The people who are important to them have a relationship with you, too.
This matters. It should be the only thing that matters.
The majority of people who overshare about their relationship on social media and expect their SO to do the same are looking for a sense of security.
Being in a committed relationship is a choice. Your SO chose to be with you. THAT should be your sense of security.
In the end, you shouldn’t be asking yourself, “why does my SO not post about me?” – you should really be asking yourself “why the f*ck do I care so much?”