She had a number of alternate Facebook pages under pseudonyms. One day, one of them showed up on my “suggested friends” and I said “Hey, this girl looks a lot like SO.” So, I looked at it. Sure enough, it was her, and she had an active relationship going on with someone else.
I later found two more of these pages.
Was the night of her company Christmas party. I had to stay home and babysit our five year old son (Grandma was supposed to, but she fell and was in the hospital with a broken hip.)
I figured wife would go and then come home early. Turns out, she was planning to stay the night at a hotel so “she could drink and not worry about driving.”
I woke up about 3am just knowing something was wrong (never happened before) and checked “Find My Phone” to see where she was. She was with her boss at his apartment.
Pretty much sucked.
I know this is cliche and I’ve definitely bitched about it before, but coming home from a 12 MONTH deployment to a BLACK baby when we’re both white were strike one and two. Strike three was telling me she had black relatives (whom I’ve never met) so that could be what happened, sure. Doesn’t matter what excuse You have there isn’t a magical 12 month gestation period. Makes me very fucking angry.
Never have I thought I would be so stupid to let something like this go for so long or even turn a blind eye to it… I was in college and it was long distance. I was suspicious with the way he acted around me, he barely talked to me when I was away, and I found emails. He denied everything and I stupidly believed him. Then I received texts from his other girlfriend and she called me. I answered and we had a discussion about it. We both decided to confront him together and he was such a coward and hid in his room. She was batshit crazy on the other hand and cracked his windshield.
About a week or so after my SO walked out on me a mutual friend runs into her. She is with a new guy. Friend asks “damn didn’t you just walk out on DrOctagon like a week ago? You move quick!” to which the “new” guy let slip “We have been together for a year.”
Didn’t walk in on her, did catch her in some way. I find out from a friend that she had been seeing some other guy for a year while she was living with me. I felt pathetic for a really long time. Still kinda do.
Found out via Facebook a few months after I had broken up with him. I was still friends with his siblings and parents, and they were tagged in some photos of him. Holding his clearly to term newborn son. Less than nine months after I broke up with him.