Red flags are never good – not in sports, not on the race track and most definitely not when it comes to dating. Although it is easy to spot a red flag in sports and other aspects of life, it is not so easy when it comes to dating.
When you first enter a relationship you go through a period called the “honeymoon stage.” This is very much what it sounds like. You are head over heels for the other person, all you want to do is spend all of your time with them. Everything during this stage is great except for the fact that all the “love” blocks out your key senses and you are completely blinded by all of the red flags that are being thrown up left and right that you are going to have to deal with for the rest of your life.
Once the honeymoon stage is over you are way too deep into the relationship, missed all the flags; and literally are stuck in the most toxic relationship you’ve ever experienced in your life. It may sound dramatic, yes, but I swear to you this is real life.
So if you are in the early stages of your relationship (aka the honeymoon stage) here are the red flags you really need to look out for:
1. Your SO never points out your flaws and only tells you how “perfect” you are.
You read that right. Here’s a little secret, no one is perfect. If your SO tells you that you are, they’re lying. Can you be perfect for a person? Absolutely. But, no one is completely perfect. It is much better to have someone in your life that points out your flaws but embracing them because they make you who you are. If your SO is just stringing you along making you believe that you are so perfect, they truly aren’t genuine.
2. Your SO is controlling.
This is pretty simple but so easy to miss; especially in the honeymoon stage. You become so in love with your relationship that the natural thing to do seems to go everywhere and do everything that your SO wants you to do. You don’t think you’re doing anything wrong by going with the flow of your relationship, however essentially you are. Once you escape the honeymoon stage your SO is going to expect you to do everything they want you to do. If your opinion is being taken into consideration and you can’t do what you want to do in the early loving stages of your relationship, you’re never going to be able to.
3. You have forgotten who your friends and family are since being with your SO.
This is a major red flag! Seriously. If you can’t remember the last time you have spoken to your family or seen your friends, you definitely should be concerned. When you are in a relationship, especially early on, you have to put things in perspective. If you and your SO were to cut things off right now, who would you have to turn to? Your family and friends right? Wrong if you ditch them to be with your SO all the time! If your SO is taking time away from you being with your loved ones, they are removing a part of you from yourself, and that’s not okay.